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BMI graphing for 1st graders?????????

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I have 3 kids. They were all born w/in 27 months. My oldest DD (9 y/o) has a growth deficiency and is seeing a Endocrinologist to determine if steroid shots are necessary. Now my 7y/o DD is much bigger then her older sister. Shes only in 1st grade and is growing at a very healthy rate. My son was 2 months premature and now weighs exactly the same as his big sister (he's in KG). It goes w/o saying that my oldest DD makes her younger siblings look bigger because she's MUCH smaller. So last night I'm going through their back packs & I discovered the school had done a BMI chart on the students. My 1st grader is now classified over 85% & considered OVER WEIGHT. They TOLD HER THIS. She is a solid little girl & is certainly not over weight. There are no rolls or pudge's, and she fits in the average size clothes for her age. Shes the same size a few other girls in her class. There are "over weight" kids and it wouldn't hurt for health purposes to control their diets but not my little girl. She has now come to me with concerns and asked me if she was fat. I wanted to cry. She sees whats going on w/her sister and now has been told by the school that she's over weight. I'm horrified she's going to develop some eating or emotional issues now. WTF????? I've added 3 different photos so you can tell me yourself if I'm over reacting on a defensive note or if I'm right to be upset & worried about whats gonna happen to her because of this.

She's the one I'm holding.


Her at the beach

Shes the one in the middle

by on May. 1, 2012 at 5:08 PM
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:20 AM
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God! I am so sick of the schools. And I'm a teacher!  Science K-8.  I wouldn't teach in a public school for 100K a year.  Half of the teachers are crazy and are led like little lost sheep doing and saying whatever Administration wants them to do and say.  Public schools are becoming social experiments!  I rember having to have the children gargle with pure flouride. Guess what.   if they swallow it, it could kill them!  I thought the administration was crazy for demanding me to do this.  I would fill their little cups with a "dot" of flouride and then water.  I woudl literally dump this stuff down the drain! Are these people crazy!  For 400 a week in pay you're going to do what ever is asked even when it puts children at risk?  Give me a break.  If any of you are having problems with public schools, then look into getting your children into a charter school. My daughter went to a charter school.  It was 5 classrooms big and every single week, the children went on a field was called FAP...Field Activity Program.  It took the place of Gym.  The children went caving, swimming, rock climbing, got their boating license, went to the airport to learn about flying, got to sit in the planes while the pilot drove them down the runway...etc.  My daughter went to this school for 6 7 and 8th grade.     When she entered high school, she was in all advanced  classes and can graduate hs with a 2 year college degree.  Parents need to be proactive about their little ones education.  Public school is not the end all.  Oh...the charter school cost me 50.00 every quarter for supplies for the activity programs which I was Happy to pay. Plus I had to donate an hour a week of volunteer time.  I went in once a month on a Sunday and cleaned the school for 4 hours.

by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:26 AM

First off you have beautiful children. I don't like when doctors say that kids are overweight or at risk because of the "% tile" that's bull to me. Unless the child is a walking stick or the child can not see their own feet they are fine. 

My older daughter is very tall...very tall. She's 11 and already 5'5....tall, but she has always been chubby...a healthy fat. She was a chuncky baby with rolls. Their Doc has always said she is over weight for her age and I tell him every she is not normal height for her age. She is taller than her  her cousin who is 5 yrs older than her. But now that she is starting puberty she has lost a lot of weight because all the baby fat is moving to other places...but, boobs stuff like that. Sometimes I don't think Docs get that evolution changes us as we grow.

My younger daughter who is 7 has an athletic build (which is why she is great with dance), 6 pack and curves, her Doc tried to say she was over weight. I told my daughter to show him her 6 pack and then say she's over weight.

She looks normal to me and I never take anything that a Doc says seriously.

by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:29 AM
I wouldn't stress it. Your daughter looks average sized, definitely not even close to being overweight. The tests given at school are never that accurate. I had a note sent home saying my son had a vision test and failed the depth perception portion. The note said I needed to take him to an eye doc for help. Well, low and behold I take him in, he has testing done, and passed the depth perception test with a 100%. After all that worry on my part, there was never a problem. The lady at the eye office told me the vision tests done at school are often inaccurate. Insurance only covered some of the visit, so I got socked with a $200.00 bill that was unneccessary had the original test been accurate.
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:35 AM
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BMI is the stupidest thing they have EVER come out with! Both my husband and I are big people (not fat, just big, tall, muscular people, nowhere near petite). My BMI says I should weigh 140lbs. At 150 I am so skinny that all of my bones pertrude and I look like a starvation victim. 160 I look great and fit and sexy. Both my kids are off the charts as far as BMI goes, they are healthy though (except that my daughter has cerebral palsy from being born very small and from lack of being able to exercise she is a little more plump than she would be other wise, but is still healthy and not at all fat). My son is very muscular and at 4 can do pushups and pull ups and has no tummy or fat...he is still considered overweight! He's tall and 52ish lbs at 4....I don't think that's unreasonable considering he's built like a tank! The pediatricians and health specialists that constantly tell me my kids are overweight piss me off! We are active and eat incredibly healthy! With very little to pinch on any of our tummies its just sickening! How about leaving the kids alone unless there is an obvious problem? Is that so difficult? I swear we are all going to have body image issues by the time they change their tune! Even my poor husband who is incredibly sexy and muscular doesn't like to get undressed in front of anyone cause the Navy told him he was too heavy the whole time he was enlisted. Sick, just sick. Why on earth would they have preffered him skinny as opposed to fit and strong/muscular? You'd think they'd want strong men defending us.
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:38 AM

i want to know why the school is doing a BMI on elementary kids   she is not fat she look healthy to me

by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:44 AM

I HATE BMI, I was told that my eldest DD was "overweight" by the BMI classification, I laughed at the person and said have you seen her? (She is 6 and just recently outgrew size 5 clothes) She's shorter then most of her class and dainty... 

Your DD looks absolutely perfect, I'd be oing to the school and demanding why they thought it was ok to tell a 7 yr old she's overweight...

You have a beautiful family BTW

by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:44 AM
Aw she's cute not overweight as long as she's healthy who cares about charts and numbers
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 10:59 AM
I would get your doctor involved and contact the school board. Your children are beautiful and your daughter appears to be at a healthy weight to me, and ultimately your doctor would be the one who could tell you otherwise. Your concerns are extremely valid and this should most definitely be brought to the school boards attention. I can understand teaching about BMI and healthy eating, but this is extreme!
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by on May. 4, 2012 at 11:00 AM

They are full of it.  She looks healthy and average size.  They need to knock this crap off.  They are going to give our kids eating disorders.

You tell her for me she is very pretty and is perfect the way she, not to let what they said bother her.

Your children are all cute!

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