We have been married almost 10 years, he is my 2nd husband. My 1st husband was abusive. Verbally, emotionally, physically. It took me a long time to trust another man in a relationship. Recently my husband has started making comments about my first marriage.
Last night there was a story on the news about a man on trial for beating his girlfriend's 5 year old son. My 15 yr old daughter and I were talking about how people could hit children like that, how sick that person would have to be, to be ok to hurt a child so bad. My husband looked at me and said Well, you stuck around in an abusive marriage for too long, you should know how it would be easy for him to beat you and then just move on to the kids.
Now he can't understand why I don't want to talk to him. I don't know if I took that comment the wrong way and am being too sensitive about it or if me being hurt is justified. He's made quite a few similar comments in the past few months and I'm getting tired of being reminded of that. I know it was wrong of me to stay as long as I did but at least I got out before my ex got to the point of hitting my kids as well. He rarely sees the kids because he lives in another state and as far as I know he hasn't hit them. He just tends to avoid them when they are with him and he lets his wife take care of them.
I've tried to explain to my husband how those comments hurt but he doesn't seem to understand. I wish I could find a way to make him understand.