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Posted by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:48 PM
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In my 30s my closest friends are friends I have known since middle school who are great, but I am having a tough time lately being able to confide in them.  I know its nothing to do with them, its me.  Has anyone had this issue?

by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:48 PM
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nicole1319
by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:50 PM

Yes i have, sounds to me like you are growing out of that friendship.  You need to make some new ones :) *HUGS* hope you can get past this :)

ldgforever
by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:52 PM

I don't have any friends except my boyfriend and a co-worker. :(

kakki81
by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:56 PM

Thank you  :)   Making new friends at 30 is hard. haha 

 

Quoting nicole1319:

Yes i have, sounds to me like you are growing out of that friendship.  You need to make some new ones :) *HUGS* hope you can get past this :)


WesternNYmom
by Alaina on May. 8, 2012 at 12:58 PM

Yes. When I became apparent to me that I could no longer confide in my Middle School/ High School friends, that is when I knew that we had grown apart.  Sometimes it just happens.  I don't think that it has anything to do with you either. 

CorpCityGrl
by Bronze Member on May. 8, 2012 at 12:58 PM

Yes!  I've had the same core group of friends since grade school and I love them, but sometimes I find it hard to talk to them.  A part of it is that we are all different and on different paths, but another part of it is that sometimes I find them to be judgy.  As an adult, you want to have adult conversations and talk to each other and confide in each other about adult things but sometimes I find that I simply can't and/or that when I do I'm being reprimanded based on the younger version of me.  Does that make sense? 

 

kakki81
by on May. 8, 2012 at 12:59 PM

:( Sometimes its the quality of friends you have not the quantity.. However sometimes we just need that person we can call anytime and just gossip and vent to anytime you want.. I understand that more then ever right now. 

Quoting ldgforever:

I don't have any friends except my boyfriend and a co-worker. :(


nicole1319
by on May. 8, 2012 at 1:01 PM

I totally understand, I am in the process as well in Jan, I  lost a friend that I had been friends with since JR High, her bf was looking at porn on my home computer while watching my kids and his son.  She and I were not home at the time, so it was not us it was not my girls.  It was not my husband he was at work.  She told me  that she believed him not me WTF ever.  I am better off and I no longer have that drama in my life and I could not feel any better about that than I do :)

Quoting kakki81:

Thank you  :)   Making new friends at 30 is hard. haha 


Quoting nicole1319:

Yes i have, sounds to me like you are growing out of that friendship.  You need to make some new ones :) *HUGS* hope you can get past this :)



kakki81
by on May. 8, 2012 at 1:08 PM

Thank You. I just going through some changes within myself and know I can be a difficult person.  Sometimes people just need that go to friend. if you know what I mean  :)

Quoting WesternNYmom:

Yes. When I became apparent to me that I could no longer confide in my Middle School/ High School friends, that is when I knew that we had grown apart.  Sometimes it just happens.  I don't think that it has anything to do with you either. 


kakki81
by on May. 8, 2012 at 1:11 PM

Makes a lot of sense.  I just find myself being on the judgemental side. :(  It may very well be them getting tired of me :(  One of the friends and I were very dependent on each other.  We knew all details of each others life, but I just having been finding myself wanting to shy away from her because of what is going on inside me that I am trying to deal with. 

Quoting CorpCityGrl:

Yes!  I've had the same core group of friends since grade school and I love them, but sometimes I find it hard to talk to them.  A part of it is that we are all different and on different paths, but another part of it is that sometimes I find them to be judgy.  As an adult, you want to have adult conversations and talk to each other and confide in each other about adult things but sometimes I find that I simply can't and/or that when I do I'm being reprimanded based on the younger version of me.  Does that make sense? 

 


kakki81
by on May. 8, 2012 at 1:16 PM

Oh my Im so sorry to hear that. I have to relate to this about feeling better.  I have these kids that I had such a big part in their life and now there soon to step mom didn't like how much I was in their life and everything changed. I miss the kids and sometimes their dad being a friend but I don't miss how upset I got about the horriable choices they made.. see there goes my judgemental self ahhhh I hate being that way haha.. I just feel better to just be here for the kids and not have to listen to their dad and step mom complain to me for me to fix their problems because the kids listened to me better.  but things are better now they are geting along better with the step mom and their dad. I dont' wish harm on anyone. My husband was just tried of seeing me so upset by their actions as well.  :)

Quoting nicole1319:

I totally understand, I am in the process as well in Jan, I  lost a friend that I had been friends with since JR High, her bf was looking at porn on my home computer while watching my kids and his son.  She and I were not home at the time, so it was not us it was not my girls.  It was not my husband he was at work.  She told me  that she believed him not me WTF ever.  I am better off and I no longer have that drama in my life and I could not feel any better about that than I do :)

Quoting kakki81:

Thank you  :)   Making new friends at 30 is hard. haha 

 

Quoting nicole1319:

Yes i have, sounds to me like you are growing out of that friendship.  You need to make some new ones :) *HUGS* hope you can get past this :)

 


 

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