Update - I told my father....and I didn't throw up **UPDATE**
Well -- I told my father about our impending move.
It went better than I thought. He said he wasn't surprised that we planned to move there....in fact, he says he told my brother already that we'd be moving some day. He is a bit shocked by the timing.
Anyway - I feel a bit better now.
There's more to say - but I have to run out again...wanted to at least post an update here before it got too late.
OK - A little more detail.
So - I wasn't sure how to start the conversation...so I basically just blurted out "we're moving....to Israel".
It took Dad a few seconds to process what his daughter had just blurted out...with no lead-in -- aand he said "Well - I have to say - it doesn't surprise me."
We talked for a while....went over the thought-process involved, etc. He did say that he's been telling my brother for a few years now that he thinks we will end up moving to Israel...but he (Dad) thought it wouldn't be so soon. Heck - I admitted to him that _I_ didn't think it would be this soon....we've always known we WOULD move there...but our original thought was retirement. But - with DH's job situation, the kids schooling is killing us (private, Jewish school....in Israel - public school), etc - this is just the 'right' timing.
We still need to work some things out before we know 100% for certain that we _can_ move in December (which is the time-frame we're planning on). But it really seems like this is the right time/way/etc.
I know we haven't been shy about our plans to move to Israel 'some day' - heck, I've spoken to my father about things we'll do in Israel when he visits us there for years. So - I guess he had been somewhat prepared....though I still feel like I went over and shot him between the eyes all of the sudden.
Yes - there were tears involved (from both of us).
Yes - there was a bit of guilt-tripping...but at the same time saying that DH and I have to do what is right for us and our family -- and that he "won't stand in our way".
Yes - I thought I was going to throw up on the floor as I was blurting it out (Im glad I didn't because after we talked I cleaned Dad's apartment like I do every other week).
I know there wiiill be A LOT more talking involved as the process progresses.....but I feel so much better knowing that I no longer have to live in fear that Dad will bump into someone who knows us and knows about our move -- I no longer have to worry that the kids will say something -- I no longer have to worry about getting a phone call about our move or about what letters are on my desk when Dad visits our house, etc.