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My husband has no sex drive

Posted by on May. 15, 2012 at 6:04 PM
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I'm 35 & my husband has no sex drive what so ever. The only time he wants to be intimate is on vacation. I have tried everything to bring back the spark but have failed. It's taking its toll on me emotionally to keep getting turned down. He doesn't hesitate to put in extra time for work but no time for our marriage. We have a 2 year old son & I'm pregnant due in 4 weeks. I cam count on one hand the number of times we have been intimate in the past year. I assume it's stress that has gotten to him. Anyone else out there going through this?
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LuvingMy3Girls
by Member on May. 15, 2012 at 6:06 PM
I'm so sorry. I don't have this issue but a few friends do. Has he seen a dr. He could have low testosterone levels? This could cause these issues for sure
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LuvHugs429
by Gold Member on May. 15, 2012 at 6:13 PM

 I was going to suggest this. My Hubby has low testosterone and has been on a patch for a few months now. We used to have sex once or twice a month and now its been 4 to 6. So crazy.

You are also due in 4 weeks so he may be too afraid to have sex. Some men are that way.

Quoting LuvingMy3Girls:

I'm so sorry. I don't have this issue but a few friends do. Has he seen a dr. He could have low testosterone levels? This could cause these issues for sure

 


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Manderz913
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:56 AM

Thank you for the advice. I'm leaning towards the low testosterone levels. Unfortunately our sex life has been like this for a few years and just keeps getting worse each year. I have asked him to get his testosterone checked but he shrugs it of. I feel like I am offending him when I bring it up or if I mention I want to be more intimate. 

rosemagic01
by Holli on May. 16, 2012 at 10:04 AM

I recently had to go to my husband about this. I explained to him that testosterone doesn't just effect the bedroom. Is he sluggish? Having a lot of issues with feeling like he never gets enough sleep or has enough energy? Does he need to lose weight? Got the man boob's going on? Does he eat and then not feel well after? My husband had all of these issues and since he started taking something to boost his levels he's been running around like a fiend with a ton of energy. He hasn't lost any weight yet but he's only been on them for 3 weeks thus far. One of the best things is that he doesn't fall asleep by 8pm every night now on the couch. He can actually stay awake till 12 before he gets sleepy and one of his biggest things is he doesn't feel bad after eating. He used to eat a meal and feel stuffed for hours. Now he eats and he's comfortable after eating and there's no 'wait period' before digestion. 

Maybe your man has some of these issues too and it will be further reason for him to seek out checking things out. Its not uncommon for men ot lose it as they age some faster than others. Its like women who have very early menopause.

Quoting Manderz913:

Thank you for the advice. I'm leaning towards the low testosterone levels. Unfortunately our sex life has been like this for a few years and just keeps getting worse each year. I have asked him to get his testosterone checked but he shrugs it of. I feel like I am offending him when I bring it up or if I mention I want to be more intimate. 


babydoll.11
by on May. 16, 2012 at 10:21 AM

ohh wow, how old is ur husband if u dont mind me asking, maybe some candles a nice bubble bath, or talk to him about seeing a doctor for some pills, watch some porn with him , maybe that will get him

bamababe1975
by on May. 16, 2012 at 12:01 PM

 It could be low testosterone. It causes a lack of desire as well as forgetfulness, lack of energy, and more.


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Aislinn
by on May. 16, 2012 at 12:03 PM

 He is probably one of those guys that gets weirded out by pregnant sex. You have been pregnant for a bit of time, between the two kiddos. Did it get better when you were not pregnant? Making an appointment for a physical might be a good idea, too. He could have a hormone issue.

roseym
by on May. 16, 2012 at 12:04 PM
I wish my husband had a lower sex drive, he's gotta bug me everyday for 8 yrs even when I'm sick he bugs me ugh!!
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moroccanmommy
by on May. 16, 2012 at 12:06 PM
Low test..stress..preg...all can contribute
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Manderz913
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:51 PM
Wow, you're describing my husband exactly. I will definitely see if he will get his testosterone levels checked. Thank you for the info!
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