No, your lips should not be sealed. What your friend is doing is wrong and is going to cause unbelievable amounts of pain to 3 women (herself, his wife, and his daughter).
Think about this, he is cheating on his wife with her because there is an issue in his and his wife's relationship instead of working on it. What is he going to do when your friend and his relationship has issues? Work on it? I think not.
I was cheated on by my husband and the pain it caused my kids and I was more pain then I have ever felt in my life.
Some how my husband came to his senses and we worked on our marriage harder than either of us have ever worked on anything. In the end we are happier than when we were dating.
I honestly will never understand (having felt the pain first hand and watched my children experience that level of pain) why a woman would ever mess with a married man. There are plenty of single men out there.
I could never be quiet -- at least not to my friend. What she is doing is WRONG on so many levels. So what if she is happy - I'm sure the guy is just blowing smoke up her ass and he really has no intention of leaving his wife - ever. His wife certainly doesn't know. And if the daughter is 15/16 and in high school - she's not going to stay in the dark forever anyway.
I would not be able to be 'supportive' of a friend flaunting an affair.
I could never be quiet, but it's up to you. He's probably lying. That is one of the typical responses men use while cheating, the other is, I love my wife, but I'm not in love with her, bet she's heard that one a bunch. I myself would say something, then if my advice was not taken I would just keep my mouth shut, and be there for her in the end when the sleaze ball doesn't leave his wife.
I see your point in a way, but I also have to disagree. I think a friend should be there to pat us on our back when we accomplish something, kick our butt when we screw something up, and not sugar coat it when they see us making a HUGE mistake.
Quoting htreveth:
You only say something if she asks for your opinion. You certainly don't have to support her immorality but you can still be a friend.
To the post that said only if she asks, I live by that rule.
I told her that if the couples intention is to get divorced, that she should confirm that with his wife and not sneak around. She swears she will, but I doubt she does.
This guy has the type if money that could give her the life if her dreams. In my opinion, I think that's clouding her moral judgment. But, can I say that and still be her friend?
What a mess
As her friend you should be able to be honest with her and share your feelings, thoughts and opinions openly. If it was my friend, I wouldn't be happy about it despite how happy she is and seems. But that's just my opinion because I don't support infidelity no matter how unhappy one is. If you are that unhappy, leave. But as a friend, I'd be there to listen to her and let her share openly whatever it is she wants to share. I just wouldnt encourage something that I personally am against.
How much of that money will be left after child support, his wife taking half and alimony? His wife is going to take him to the cleaners, how long before she figures this out?
Quoting MommyOverboard:
I've always been the ”tell it like it is” kind of friend. I don't know why is so hard for me to speak up this time.
To the post that said only if she asks, I live by that rule.
I told her that if the couples intention is to get divorced, that she should confirm that with his wife and not sneak around. She swears she will, but I doubt she does.
This guy has the type if money that could give her the life if her dreams. In my opinion, I think that's clouding her moral judgment. But, can I say that and still be her friend?
What a mess
Do you have a landline?
- MommyOverboard
on May. 21, 2012 at 10:01 AM