Is There Any Point in Beginning to Stay Home Once Kids Are in School?
I'll try to be brief because this could clearly be a long story: I am an early 30s married mother, a professional with a master's degree who earns a good income and appears to be on the path to continually advance and make more. I have always worked full-time, before becoming a mother, during my pregnancies and after having my children. My income has always been necessary for us to meet expenses and sustain our lifestyle (which is not extravagant by any means unless you include living in a nicer than average area so we can be near family and zones for decent public schools; our budget does not include much frivolous or discretionary spending - no new cars, no spa days, few vacations, etc.).
I have suddenly began to feel like my children's lives are passing me by - the youngest is about to begin Kindergarten. Moreover, as a working mother, even as the kids get older, I DON'T see or feel things getting any easier! I am tired of being stressed and rushed, and I know my children prefer it when I am not this way. Moreover, they are entering a phase, I believe, when parental presence and guidance are increasingly important (homework help, activities, etc.). I want the calm and balance of being able to devote more time on the domestic front, be there for my kids and even, by extension, be a better wife.
However, the NUMBERS do not currently add up, though my husband says he supports my thoughts and potential action in this direction. Moreover, I wonder if it's worth staying home if you never have and now the kids are in school. We would have to make some dramatic changes, like moving, or I would still need to find a way to generate income (i..e. consulting or freelancing, which I think I would do anyway) to help bridge the gap.
Can anyone offer any input or guidance? I would like to be settled on a decision and course of action this summer, before the next school year starts!