i've seen a few replies saying one parent or another wasn't too happy with the pregnancy news because it was "out of wedlock". it amazes me! especially when it's still happening today. why is it that people still feel you need to be married to have children? i understand having the whole having partener thing. raises children with two is easier than doing it on your own. but what if you have a partener & just aren't married? why do you think the pregnancy still frowned upon by many?
when i told my mom i was pregnant with my first she wasn't over joyed but not because i wasn't married but because we got pregnant the first week we were together & she was concerned he might not stay around. legit concerns. didn't care what my father said or thought, we have never had a happy, loving relationship. i was scared to tell his mom though, a pentecostal minister. at the time she was in her late 80's & i thought she'd be dissapointed with me. her words? "is he good to you?" "does he love you?" "does he want to be a father". when i answered yes to all she simple said "then that's all that matters, isn't it? I'm happy for you & can't wait to meet my new grandbaby!".
it's sad that my 80+ year old granma's attitude isn't the norm but the exception.