That's what I want to scream at my friend. The woman is clueless on how babyish and destructive her children are. Today she had to leave them home alone for two hours (they had a half day and she had to work late at work), she got a call from a cop at her house because someone was calling laughing saying "poopie", "boobs", ect. The cop said the dispatcher herd both a boy and girl on the tape laughing and carrying on and they called at total of 15 times. She insists it is not her kids that did it and there must be something wrong with the 911 tracking system.
Her kids are almost 12 (next month) and 9. Both still tantrum in public like a 3 year old (not some times, ALL THE TIME. I have known her for 8 years and have never been with her a time both her kids did not have a complete screaming melt down), the 12 year old insists her mother still wipes her after she has a bowel movement. The 9 year old (with the encouragement of their father) constantly refers to her as the house slave and orders her to do things around the house. AND SHE DOES IT! I ask her why and she says "it is easier to just do it then to deal with the tantrum".
Whenever thy act out there is always some excuse why. "they are traumatized over the fire" (that was 7 years ago), "they are stressed over our strained marriage and their father's affair" (don't get me started on that, her husband is having an open affair and going onto dating sites. She still waits on him, cleans up after him, and does all his laundry as well as the sheets he screws his gf on. and the kids are probably stressed over it, but this was happening way before the affair began), "they are just spirited" (I bet that is exactly what inmates parents said about them!).
Honestly this woman's life is way out of control and she needs to get it together before these kids do something serious. I feel like an intervention is needed but I have no idea how to do it. I am her only friend (her family is dead and her husband does not allow her to call others besides me). Suggestions? I am really scared for her :(