Me and my dh have been married for 8 months now. I have 2 sons, 12 and 14, he has 1 son, 8 and 2 daughters, 15 and 17. The oldest 4 get along great. Up until probably 2 months after we got married, all his kids visited with us. We went to Florida for a week, had a great time, etc. Then they decided to stop coming. They never had a reason, it was always silly things. I don't feel good, my friends want to go to the movies, I don't have to, etc. Well, about a month ago, one of the girls said she just doesn't feel like coming, one said its because he wants to be with me, instead of them and if it weren't for me, he would be living with them all the time. Him and bm have been divorced for 7 years. Ok, to the point. The mediator they went to suggested he dies things one on one with them once a week. Today starts the youngest daughter, next Thursday starts the oldest daughter and they'll take turns. My problem is, we have never done fun things without all the kids. We waited for the fair last year until we had them all. We wait for movies, special restraunts, etc. Now he's going to do things with them because they all of a sudden decided they don't like me. In my opinion, that's not fair to my boys or his either. They're around when we do the boring stuff, no matter what. They're still here, no complaining. So why do the girls get fun stuff when they can't be bothered? If they go see a movie, the rest of the kids miss out because my husband won't want to see it again. And I can't take the rest of them to do things while he's out with the girls because we only have one car. It sucked having to explain to his son that he can't go since sissy was talking all day about what she gets to do, that he don't. So, my ss has been wanting papa johns for a while and we try not to eat too much junk food, so me and the 3 boys are gonna order pizza and watch a movie. Not as much fun, but its the best I can do right now. Any ideas on how to make the boys feel like they're not getting the short end of the stick?
on Jun. 28, 2012 at 4:48 PM