Ok I really dont know what it is I'm looking for from you guys but I'm getting real stressed out. My ex of two years is remarried and is now taking me to court to try and get full custody of our children. I have been a stay at home mom since my son was born in 2006. I have always been there for my kids. He is trying to say that I am unable to support myself and my two children. I currently live with another man and his his 4 children, so I am still a stay at home mother to all of them, now. This summer has been hard on me because for the first time I have had to spend more time than ever away from my children. Since he is married now she is considered a family member(stepmother). So he has had the kids for most of the summer, or should I say she has had the kids most of the summer. He is still working full time and she is taking care of my children all day while he is at work. They have only known each other for a year come august and been married since feburary. I dont think this is even long enough for my children to be spending this much time with her(stepmother) Ok I'm getting off subject. They are filling for custody of the kids and are asking for an evaluator> Have any of you been through an evaluator?