What's a reasonable time for a 13 yr old girl to be out...
I have a daughter who likes being with her friends but their parents just let them be out til 1 or 2 in the morning and I just can't bring myself to let mine do it...so what do you moms think is a good time for a 13 yr old to be out??
We live in CO and here no kid 17 & younger can be "out" during the hours of midnight to 5am (on weekends) and 11pm to 5am (weekdays). If they are found "outside" they will be taken to a "safe haven" place and parents called. I think if there are repeat offenders, there are fines and programs/classes to attend. My 13yo daughter has to be in when it gets dark. Even her laptop and cell phone have the "curfew" hours on them! LOL! Im sorry, but until my children are adults, they will be home when it gets dark, unless they are at the movies or somethin and a parent is drivin them home from an "event". If my kids want to hang at a friends house or if my kids have friends over at our house, they can stay up as late as they want, as long as no one leaves the house. My daughter knows about the curfew. In the winter time its too cold to "hang" outside. In the summer they get eaten by mosquitoes. There are a few kids who i do not allow my daughter to sleep over at their houses cuz i know they would sneak out and run around outside causing havoc! I let her sleep over at her "safe" and responsible friends houses where i know the parents would not allow the kids to run around crazy.
I am a parent a damn good one at that...I was just asking other moms what they thought...so u keep ur smart ass comments to yourself....
Quoting juchimura:I guess you would let her stay out until 2 in the morning if you:
...don't care that she's not getting an adequate amount of sleep for her age.
...do not believe that boundaries are important.
...think that the only thing to do at this time of night/morning is play "Scrabble" with her NON-flirtatious friends.
...know she's studying for a test or finishing up an assingment that's due the next day.
...are spending some awesome mother-daughter time together.
...etc.
As far as I'm concerned, until my children are adults (18), living on their own, have an income of their own, drive themselves around, and are ready to suffer the consequences of choices made as an adult, they go to bed no later than I do, and are home at a reasonable time. If you're a reasonable adult, then you will know what that reasonable time is. Use discernment. You ARE the parent, be one.
When the mall closes (9:00pm) , or immediately after the movie ends if it runs later.
Thirteen year olds at coffee shops or friends' houses after 9:00 pm only annoy patrons and adults.
13yr, home by 10 would be my guess. Nothing good happens after 11. and for sure 1am...besides, they can't drive.
Out in the neighborhood... until the street lights come on.
Out with an adult chaperon, until 9 (maybe 10 depending on where they're at and with whom) on nights they have no school and 7 on nights they have school the next day.
Out in the evenings w/o an adult chaperon... not until they're at least 16 years old and have demonstrated they are very mature and trustworthy... then not past 10 (maybe 11 depending on what they're doing and with whom).
Also no matter what age they're to let me know where the plan to be at, with whom and have a phone on them I can call at any time.
Curfew should be 8pm that gives a child time to get clothes an books in order for next day, get their baths ready for bed at 9pm is the idea time so parents can have down time before they go to bed. Parent who let their children stay up past 9pm is crazy. First your child need plenty of rest to perform at their max in school, alittle down time for parent is a good thing help's you to be all you can be
is it ok ?
- Shaybay218
on Jul. 29, 2012 at 2:28 PM