I'm engaged to a man that has no children of his own, and I have two from a previous (11 & 8) & we've been together for 3 years. I'm having some frustration & need some solid advice from you ladies that either; have step children or are with someone thats not the bio father of your kiddos. The problem is...he's constantly annoyed that he's just the friend to the kids but, he's not overly involved to put himself in more of a parent role. Ahh! He will do little things....he taught my son how to ride a bike, he'll go to their games w me, takes excellent care of us, etc. BUT, I still have to ask him if he'll watch one of them while I go to the store, he'd never keep them so I can go out w a friend, and if they ask if they can go with him cause he's running an errand he says no. He tells me he needs some alone time! WTH? Alone time?? Oh...and we've already had to deal with the whole him imposing rules on them that I don't require. I really need to know; am i asking too much from him? Should he be able to pitch in whenever he wants & not when he wants? Should I allow him to create rules I think are too strict?? I'm needing some imput, PLEASE!!!!!