DD3 is going through a spell where occasionally she will say "I hate ____". I think it's no big deal and tell her EVERY TIME that it is not nice to say. I explain it is nicer to say "I don't like ____" Well, last night she hates something and DH says he is going to start punishing (spanking of all things!) her the next time she says it. I asked him "Can you really make your child not hate?"
IMO It's a spin of an emotion. I don't think you can forbid someone to hate. To me that seems a little overcontrolling and I am a protective mommy. Granted DH doesn't show emotion so he has no concept of expression feelings healthy. I'm trying to teach her it can be worded better. For my questioning him, which I did in our bedroom a few minutes after the fact when no kids were present, I got a look of woman you better not question me, I am right. Yes my husband is a butt. Currently I am trying to make the best of a less than perfect situation. I am also trying to give enough detail so you guys can see our sides.
I am sure she picked it up from the DD7 who is learning many wonderful things at school this year=( She is with me 95% of the time so I know what she is into. So where do you fall on this? I would love to hear how others have handled this especailly if I am wrong.