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idk why this bothered me so much

Posted by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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Today I had a meeting to set up evaluations through the school for my 5 year old son. So I'm talking with the academic specialist about him and she is in shock. She starts saying "poor little guy" a lot.
then at the end she says it: "I don't know how you do it."
Idk why it bothered me so much but it did. I mean, he's my son. Hes an amazing little boy who is so smart and so kind hearted. He just happens to have some issues that we need some help working through. Yes, he can be challenging. Yes, we struggle with things that average kids wouldn't even notice. But he is my son and I will do whatever he needs to help him succeed. He is 5 years old and has recently started multiplying on his own! He will come to me saying "mommy, 2 5s is 10! 3 4s is 12!" Nobody taught him that, he just figured it out on his own. Sure we need a little extra help but I feel priveleged to be the mom of such an amazing, unique little boy.
I'm probably overreacting but I just had to vent.
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Pukalani79
by Kris on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:39 AM

Good for you! So often people see the problem or the struggle without seeing the beautiful being that is our child.

KylesMom409
by Linnette on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:52 AM
Exactly. It would have bothered me too though.

Quoting Pukalani79:

Good for you! So often people see the problem or the struggle without seeing the beautiful being that is our child.

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Babujai
by Bronze Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 9:58 AM

 That would have bothered me, too.  I don't know what kind of challenges your child has, but there was no cause to verbalize her pity.  My little one has behavioural issues and I get frustrated, but I don't need anyone's pity.  Even when he's being difficult he's still a blessing in my life.

tiredmomma35
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 10:02 AM
Good for you. We as mom's sometimes have to stick up for our kids.
mali321
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:35 AM

Not overreacting at all. I would have taken offense to it as well. My dd also has a few issues that we are working on. and I get the poor her. Its not poor her. The way I see it, (and this is how I explain so people will understand) she was just born with a different operating system than you and I. Since most people can understand computers and tech this is the easiest way from them to get it,

thecoffeefairy
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:38 AM
He sounds super smart! I would have said something to the teacher. Gifted children are often sensitive emotionally and feeling can be hurt more easily.
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JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:44 AM

He is!  This teacher works with kids with academic challenges as well as the gifted.  My son thankfully was not in that meeting so we were free to talk without him overhearing.  I am very interested to get him tested and see if he is indeed gifted.  She seemed pretty impressed with him when we met last week.  She kept looking at me with a stunned look on her face and mouthing "wow" when he was looking at the map she has in her office and telling her all about stuff I had never taught him.

But his issues go beyond feeling sensitive.  He has sensory processing disorder, anxiety, and possible ocd and add.  

Quoting thecoffeefairy:

He sounds super smart! I would have said something to the teacher. Gifted children are often sensitive emotionally and feeling can be hurt more easily.



Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.  ~Mildred B. Vermont
greenmommo
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:47 AM
I hear that a lot too. Most moms of special needs kids do. I say-I do it with love.
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thecoffeefairy
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 11:54 AM
If he has sensory problems the anxiety, OCD and add make sense. If everything was loud, itchy, uncomfortable and or bright I would have problems focusing, I would be anxious a lot and would try to stay in my comfort zone. It sounds like your doing a great job. I'm sure the teacher was attempting to encourage you.😀


Quoting JasonsMom2007:

He is!  This teacher works with kids with academic challenges as well as the gifted.  My son thankfully was not in that meeting so we were free to talk without him overhearing.  I am very interested to get him tested and see if he is indeed gifted.  She seemed pretty impressed with him when we met last week.  She kept looking at me with a stunned look on her face and mouthing "wow" when he was looking at the map she has in her office and telling her all about stuff I had never taught him.

But his issues go beyond feeling sensitive.  He has sensory processing disorder, anxiety, and possible ocd and add.  


Quoting thecoffeefairy:

He sounds super smart! I would have said something to the teacher. Gifted children are often sensitive emotionally and feeling can be hurt more easily.



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JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:11 PM

Yeah I know she was.  I used to work with her years ago so I know her pretty well.  His school is amazing with all of this.  We just started at the end of August.  His mentor teacher has a special needs daughter so the first day we met to get curriculum she turned in the request for our FST.  The FST lasted maybe 5 minutes?  The special ed teacher listened to the beginning of what was going on and took one look at our pile of papers and said she was doing every evaluation she could.  He excells in academics but they are even testing that because they are worried he may be preforming below where he is cognitively with all of his other issues and they don't want to miss anything.  The FST was last Monday and we were taken over to this office as soon as we were done there.  I should hear from everybody about these evaluations within a week and it is pretty much every evaluation the school can do!

Quoting thecoffeefairy:

If he has sensory problems the anxiety, OCD and add make sense. If everything was loud, itchy, uncomfortable and or bright I would have problems focusing, I would be anxious a lot and would try to stay in my comfort zone. It sounds like your doing a great job. I'm sure the teacher was attempting to encourage you.😀


Quoting JasonsMom2007:

He is!  This teacher works with kids with academic challenges as well as the gifted.  My son thankfully was not in that meeting so we were free to talk without him overhearing.  I am very interested to get him tested and see if he is indeed gifted.  She seemed pretty impressed with him when we met last week.  She kept looking at me with a stunned look on her face and mouthing "wow" when he was looking at the map she has in her office and telling her all about stuff I had never taught him.

But his issues go beyond feeling sensitive.  He has sensory processing disorder, anxiety, and possible ocd and add.  


Quoting thecoffeefairy:

He sounds super smart! I would have said something to the teacher. Gifted children are often sensitive emotionally and feeling can be hurt more easily.





Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love.  ~Mildred B. Vermont
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