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hes scaring me

Posted by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 1:21 AM
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My 5 year old son has some interesting behavioral stuff we are trying to find answers for. He has sensory processing disorder, anxiety disorder, impulse control disorder, and is gifted.
This week has been terrible. His behavior has been outrageous. He has been spending a lot of time in his room alone. He has lost most of his toys. He has been sent to bed early almost every night. He has had zero time on any electronics.
He's talking back bad. Nobody in our house speaks meanly to each other but its all he will do. Demand, refuse, argue. He sometimes hits me or others for no apparent reason. And yes, he is disciplined for it each and every time.
ive had a lot of professionals watch me with him and tell me my methods are wonderful and that I have a ton of patience with him. Hes just not responding. Normally I can catch him when he starts to get overwhelmed but this week has been different.
Hes waking up ok. Hes never a morning person and I have to keep my attitude positive like its going to be the best day ever or our day will go downhill fast. I'm not a morning person either so its a bit of a challenge.
he gets dressed and sits down to breakfast. That's when everything changes. All of the sudden out of nowhere he will yell at himself and start talking to himself. Here's an example from today. Y is what he yells and s is what he speaks.
Y:"Stop using your fingers when you eat"
S:"but its an apple I can use fingers for an apple"
Y:"no, it doesn't matter you need to use your fork"
S starting to whine: "no, my mommy says I can use my fingers"
Y: "I don't care I said you need to use a fork"
S near tears "but its an apple"
Y: "then throw it away if you're not going to use a fork"
And on and on it goes. After this he will stop on either one or the other. He could be fine and move on with his day or he could be snappy all day.
I'm really scared.
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jenuresti5
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 4:35 AM

It sounds like u r going thru alot..but it also sounds like ur a great mom. i can only imagine how scary that is for ur son to b behaving this way but it sounds like he could have a medical issue..talk to ur doctor and hope that everything works out for u and ur family.

chinosruca
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 4:49 AM
Hugs. Wish I had advice. My younger brother is schizophrenic & had shown signs if mental illness as early as kindergarten (although we did not realize it at the time, just thought he was strange or different). I am in no way shape or form a doctor or specialist on mental illness, but if his conversations with himself are serious and not playish make believe, you might want to look into schizophrenia or split personality.
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offrdngal
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:50 AM

 I agree.  I would have his doctors check him out and at the very least, rule out schizophrenia and/or multiple personality disorder....before it possibly becomes harmful to him and your family.

Quoting chinosruca:

Hugs. Wish I had advice. My younger brother is schizophrenic & had shown signs if mental illness as early as kindergarten (although we did not realize it at the time, just thought he was strange or different). I am in no way shape or form a doctor or specialist on mental illness, but if his conversations with himself are serious and not playish make believe, you might want to look into schizophrenia or split personality.

 

alc4evermom
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:47 AM
Your kid is only five; how can he already be labeled like that? The medical authorities are out of control. Very sorry you are having a hard time though.
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Eve-marie
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 8:10 AM

I'm seeing multiple personality disorder or schizophrenia. A strong personality and a weak one arguing. Get a psychiatrist involved. Punishment isn't gonna work if he can't control it. I hope things get better soon. It must be so scary for you and confusing and distressing for him. Hugs to you both.

sunflowers12
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 9:58 AM

sounds like he should be evaluated for personality disorder it sound as if theres more the one in there somewhere.. what's the fam, back ground like is there others with mental illness it may be worth asking around a bit..

the only other reason i would think he could be trying is for attention are the reasons he could be acting out is because of all the other diagnoses this way its never him being at fault for the bad behaviors its always the disorders fault.. 

hard to say in this situation.. however he is very young and young kids do silly things to get attention.. i believe your trying your very best as well, but i think many times our children have been so over diagnosed with disorders/conditions /syndromes its seems as if none of us are what normal used to be considered.. i just think maybe you could try new ways to get to him... fight fire with fire when he does this talking stuff just ask him why?? you do it to show him what it looks like.. maybe it will help him understand it in a different way... as far as the violent out burst it could be frustration but we all have to learn how to cope with life..  not to say he doesn't have legitimate issues just have to be careful i guess..

lullabylily
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 10:04 AM
Your child is special. Hang in there, I can not give you any advise because I do not understand your situation I can only imagine how you feel. I wish you the best and will pray for you.
*hugs*
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Jinxed8
by Gold Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:23 AM

I would be scared as well, conversations with one's self is not normal - I'm also thinking split personality or schizo... If this was my daughter, I'd reach out for help now.

JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:25 AM
My nephew has schizophrenia but its from his dads side not our side.
I've asked him who he is talking to and he says himself.


Quoting sunflowers12:

sounds like he should be evaluated for personality disorder it sound as if theres more the one in there somewhere.. what's the fam, back ground like is there others with mental illness it may be worth asking around a bit..


the only other reason i would think he could be trying is for attention are the reasons he could be acting out is because of all the other diagnoses this way its never him being at fault for the bad behaviors its always the disorders fault.. 


hard to say in this situation.. however he is very young and young kids do silly things to get attention.. i believe your trying your very best as well, but i think many times our children have been so over diagnosed with disorders/conditions /syndromes its seems as if none of us are what normal used to be considered.. i just think maybe you could try new ways to get to him... fight fire with fire when he does this talking stuff just ask him why?? you do it to show him what it looks like.. maybe it will help him understand it in a different way... as far as the violent out burst it could be frustration but we all have to learn how to cope with life..  not to say he doesn't have legitimate issues just have to be careful i guess..


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JasonsMom2007
by Lisa on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:29 AM
Thanks ladies he has an appointment with the developmental pediatrician again today and I'm just going to go in there, tell him I'm clueless, and lay it all out for him. Hopefully its nothing.
I know he has spd. I cant decide if I agree with the anxiety disorder or impulse control disorder or not. And I know that hes gifted plus that is a good label!
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