i had another yelling match with my 8yr old tonight, after basket ball practice. i called my mom to ask her what to do and to let her hear the situation ("it dont happen at my house..says my mom). all she offered was "maybe she needs mommy time" (which is hard to get since she spends all weekend with my mom and grandma and i have an almost 4 yr old dd and 6month old ds and fience has an 11 yr old ds, 7yr old dd and 6yr old ds). and "what does she have to come home to. all everyone in the house does is yell"
i got so frazzled i hung up on her so i could give my 3 yr old and baby baths. after their baths, i called my dad and vinted to him. he said he'd talk to her. he's stuck in the middle. (long story of my life!!)
i have no idea where to start with mom. she always puts me and my parenting style down when it comes to raising dd. we lived with mom untill 3 yrs ago. the first yr was the hardest, mom insisted i eat at her house everynight, but fience wanted me eating with him and his kids. she was ok with my fience untill him and his kids moved into my house (his ex left state and we're raising his kids). she hates my fience and his kids and has done everything to slpit us up. she's a control freek!! i'm at my whits end!! i'd move out of state if i knew she wouldn't do anything drastic and my ex would leave me alone (youngest dd's dad).
can anyone offer any advice to get her off my back, but not get so mad she'll leave my life?????
oh... and she's told me she quit dating cause of me (i didn't want to share her when i was in jr high/high school and acted out) and my 8 yr old dd is acting out cause of my fience and his kids. so moms sollution is i need to dump fience (fahter of ds) and not ever have a guy in my life (like her)