So here's the situation : My grand-mother is not a very nice person. She spent a major part of her life criticizing and bashing others as she saw fit, we have all been through the ringer, the entire family ; my mother, my sister, my cousin, my aunt, my dad ... Except that when my turn came, I didn't stand for it, I cut all ties because I didn't want my daughter to be affected by this poison and have not seen her or kept in touch since. I have been dis-inherited. She has also torn the family apart, my dad and his brother no longer speak, therefore extended family follows (we don't talk to them, they don't speak to us), only one of my cousins is a very resiliant girl and keeps in touch with us all.
Now my grand-mother is now 95 years old - she has been admitted to the hospital yesterday with respitory distress, she is affected by this flu that all the news are talking about. Chances are, at her age and whatnot, she's never gonna make it out of the hospital. Now what is gonna happen if she passes away ? Honestly I have no empathy for this woman my feelings are non-existent... I won't be sad or happy she is gone. I don't even know if there will be a funeral service for her as both brothers don't even speak. And she hasn't been a terribly good mother to my dad either and I think it would be wasted time and money. But should there be one, do I have to go ? Do I go out of respect for my dad ? Or do I not show up at all ?
If an obituary had to be written about her, it would be something like Dolores Aguilar's obituary ... I first read this obituary years ago and I know it's been around the internet many times since then. I practically choked when i read this as it is so fitting for my grand mother ...
** UPDATE ** So I received a call from my dad and my grand-mother passed away this morning. He told me he had to go empty her room at the home and told me he'd make sure that I get a few things, and that he's deal with the consequences (you know because I'm out of the will and all) I told him not to worry about it, it didn't matter to me. Then came the discussion about the funeral. She will be cremated and there will be a church held mass. I asked him what he wanted me to do, he left it up to me, I left it up to him, I told him that if he needed me or wanted me to be there I would go for him. If not then I would not. He told me we'll talk about it later.