Am I doing the right thing for my son? **UPDATE IN RED**
My son is 10 and is in a Group doing Odyssey of the Mind (if anyone doesn't know what it is, it's a group of 7 kids who make up a skit out of a "problem" they choose and go up against other schools from an area and compete). The last 3 weeks my son has basically been coming home crying that he is being teased by all 6 kids. It apparently started 2 weeks ago when they were at a house the kids (except mine) were picking on this one other child but when my son stepped up and stuck up for his friend they started in on him, including the one he stuck up for. Now I have volunteered with all these kids without their parents around and I know my son is no angel but a couple of these boys and one of the girls are bad apples.
They have only 5 weeks before this competition is suppose to happen my son said he wanted to quit. Hubby and I were ok with it at first but the more I thought about it the more I thought it was a bad idea. I said to my Husband "What if they can't find a replacement? Then he will be made fun of at school because these kids are going to be upset after all this work they couldn't compete. Then what can we do? We can't trade his schools again (we took him out of Public and put him in this Charter School) and we definately can't homeschool, which we wouldn't do in the first place. My Husband said he is going to sit in on the meeting this weekend to see if anything happens, only problem with the competition only 5 weeks away they are going to have a lot more practices after school on Thurs and Friday. Hubby and I can't be there for those. I told him just to try it one more week and if they give him problems we will talk to the parents ourselves, which we have been trying not to do and letting my son try to handle it himself.
I know my son has a temper and he is very sensitive and wears his heart on his sleeve, he needs to learn to stand up for himself and if it gets worse needs to talk to a parent. When he told me about the first time I told him there is nothing i can do since I was not there, he should have told the parent when it was happening if the kids wouldn't stop. Now I feel like a horrible Mom for making him go through with this and I'm afraid if I call these parents I am going to look like "that Parent" that feels my kid has done nothing wrong.
Would you keep him in or would you pull him out? Please don't lecture me about the bullying, my son has bullied other kids and I put him in his place.
My son had his weekly Odyssey Meeting Thursday so I left work early to go pick him up. I went to talk to one of the Moms when I went to get him and she came up to me and said right away "I am so sorry." I said "For what?" She said "My daughter told me that she heard Wayne (my son) talking to another kid about wanting to quit Odyssey but you want him to stick it out although they have been teasing him." She said "I did not know anything about it and the first thing we did when we sat down is that I talked to them all about one of the kids talking about quitting due to overly teasing and asked if they wanted anyone to leave and if so they needed to realize we will be done with the group and we aren't going to the competition." I just smiled and Thanked her and I got my son and he was smiling from ear to ear. I asked how practice went and he said great none of the kids picked on him and they all apologized for being mean. That made me so happy to hear it. She also told Wayne that next time he needed to speak up right away or else she can't do anything to rectify the situation. Now all we need to do is fine one more Judge or else they won't be able to do the compition anyways.
I wish I could volunteer but right now we are on Mandatory OT at work and require to work at least 3 hrs on Saturdays and we have to do a training in order to be a judge and if I have OT I can't do the training so I am hoping one of the Dad's step up. My Hubby cant because he still doesn't know if he can make to the competition since he will be in Rochester NY for the week :(