You are not my child .. I don't HAVE to do anything
This is so what I want to say to my BFFs son but can't ... too nice and I don't want to start unnecessary drama.
His birthday is on the 25th and DD's is on the 26th of January. Last year I threw a party for the both of them at BFF's house since it could hold everyone. He turned 10 and she turned 1, I thought it was cute and it was my birthday present to him.
This year my SM bought DD and I tickets to visit my Uncle & Aunt in South Carolina for her birthday. So I planned her party here for the 2nd of February at a local park. I invited her cousins and my BFF's children. Along with family. So he asked today if I was throwing him a party again this year. It crushed me but at the same time, not. I already told BFF that I wouldn't be able to do it this year. We're a bit strapped with everything that is going on and I wasn't planning on going all out like I did last year. I also told my BFF that I wouldn't be throwing him a party this year because of his attitude, violent outbursts and so on. She has been to the point many times the last 6-8 months of calling the police on him and so on. He has issues that need to addressed and worked on. I told him this as well.
So I explained that we were going out of town and that her party would be the following weekend. He did all the frowny faces and "o" and so on. He's even trying his guilt trip on me that he does with BFF to make me throw a party for him as well. Not working buddy!
So I'm going to send my BFF a message and tell her that if he insists on a joined party again this year, she has to provide his cake along with pitching in with the food, plates and so on.