I am single mother. My family lives in Europe and they occasionally fly over here to see my son and me. I understand that my mom is not around all the time, but she wants to always stay long period of times, not just week or two, but more like 4 months. She is in my house and when she is here, she is overly involved. She is cleaning my house, cooking meals, doing my laundry. I am 36 years old and it kinda bothers me. I told her to stop doing my laundry and she did, but she won't give up on the cooking and cleaning. It got to the point that I just stopped eating her meals to prove the point and she got upset. My son was very excited to see her, but now the initiall excitement wore off, he wants to spend more time with me than her and it bothers her too. I asked him if he can stay with my mom yesterday because I wanted to run to discount tire to change my tires and he said he wants to go with me. She got upset, and said that he doesn't like her. I mean she got REALLY upset. I think she is too emotionally dependent on us or at least this is the feeling I am getting. This all stands from her not having any relationship with my dad in the first place. They are still married but it's not a loving relationship, never has been and never will be. They ignore each other and I never understood why are they together. I am just so tired lately of dealing with the emotional co-dependence from her. I know she is my mother and always worries about me, but at some point she needs to let go and start enjoying retirement. I love my mom dearly but I do not want to be treated like I am 5 years old or worry about her being upset that my child wants to spend time with me instead of her. At the age of 36 I don't want to come home to a fully cooked meal every day... I want to cook my own.