Hi...first time posting so please be nice...lol. My son is 3&1/2, and seems to think that he is the boss. He talks back to me and my husband, blatantly chooses to ignore us when we tell him to do something, or looks at us and smirks, then continues to do whatever it is we are telling him not to do. I'm so frustrated, I've tried time outs, taking away toys, going to bed early, and even spanking. NOTHING is working. He's even been kicked out of the child care center at church for hitting other kids. When I talk to him about keeping his hands to himself, he says he understands and it seems to me that he gets what I'm saying, but he does these things anyway. His preschool teacher called it extreme defiance. Any advice on how to deal with this?
UPDATE....so I finally got 123magic after a long wait list at the library. It works wonders, and I will be recommending it to anyone in my situation. The key, which I knew, was definitely consistency. But it took 123magic to get my DH to understand this. Thanks for all the tips and well wishes ladies!!!!