See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I have a friend who I've known for almost two years. I think she and her husband are wonderful people and as far as hanging out with them, its been a blast. Our kids are the same age, so its been great to have playdates. However, in the two years that we have been friends, her eldest child is clearly displaying signs of ADHD and her youngest child is following in the same path. We talk all the time about the kids' behavior and what we do to ensue good behavior, but it seems that her children are just getting worse and worse. It has come to the point where her kids have hit even hit my children. I want her to do/say something more than "no" or "that's not nice". Her kids laugh when they do mean things to my children and it seems like they don't understand that their behavior is wrong. They don't look at her in the face when she tries to tell them no. They twist away, run away, yell and scream until she finally givies up. It even came to a point when her oldest son slapped and kicked my son at the playground. Her reaction was just to tell her son to to say "sorry". In that case, I really didn't feel like sorry was an appropriate response to leaving a handprint on my son's face. I was really torn about what to do, so I sent her a text explaing that my son didn't want to play with her son anymore becuase he was afraid of getting hurt. I know she felt bad for what happended, but I don't think there was any consequences for her son's bad behavior. She wants to be a parent who sits down and explains EVERYTHING to her kid and always gives them options out of being punished. I really just want to tell her that it is unacceptable that her children hit my kids and that if it does happen, that I expect her to give her kids consequences. Sometimes just saying "sorry" doesn't make things alright. I strongly feel that her kids know no boundaries and have no clue what a consequense is. She's so sensative about her children, that I'm afraid that it will cause us not to be friends.
Even as I write this I think Im realizing that I might just have to pull back on the friendship and just accept the fact that we have two different ideas about discipline and I may just have to move on.
I still would like to know what you guys think. I can't be the only person in this situation....