What would you do...baby sister issues? ***edited***
The issue is that 85% of the family that will be there still don't know my baby. In fact most of the ones that seen him before only saw him at the hospital. So I am scare to have her grow jealous of him because everyone is paying attention to dad's first grandson instead of dad's little girl. So how would you handle this?
*** It seems some of you got the wrong impression and I guess it might be due to language barrier...so here are a few facts: ***
1. My sister isn't a brat; in fact she is very kind and respectful.
2.Dad and her mom doesn't allow her to do whatever she wants or spoil her rotten. If she gets out of line she is grounded and held accountable.
3. We have seen each other countless times after that birthday (6yrs ago) and as long as I don't get near dad she is fine.
4. Birthdays are a personal celebration in our families and as a rule we invite only the ppl we want too. No extra relatives or parents choice.
5. And yes, I was worried that she would get jealouse of my boy but at the same time not going felt to me inmature.
Birthday was yesterday and I chose to call her mom when we arrived and ask her to send my sister out to help me out. When she got to the car she had a huge smile in her face. I asked her if she wanted to help me with the stroller and then I put my boy in it. I told her that this was the first time our grams would see my boy - not true but she got alzhimers so everytime is the first time - and I thought she as the birthday girl should be the one showing baby off. She got super excited and waited till I was done grabbing everything from the car. She was very careful pushing the stroller and finaly show him to grams. When grandma asked who the baby was her answer "My nephew; you know my sister's baby" Everyone was shock! She show him to everyone in the party; pay little to no attention to any other baby there but was very carefull around my boy. Even asked our cousin to lower the music volume each time my boy took a nap. At the end of the birthday she took me to a side and said "I know I've been bad to you and hope you can forgive me. Dad explained that we are sisters and that makes your son my nephew and if I want to see him I have to have your approval so I hope you can see I can be good and approve of me being near my nephew"
I basically just hug her and told her it was very big of her to apologize and that she had earn major points with me. I told her that as long as she kept her grades up, be respectful and had both her parents approval I thought we could make o point to see each other once a week. She is comming for dinner next Friday!