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Are you friends with your MIL on Facebook? Opinions please.

Posted by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:26 PM
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Yesterday I decided to delete my MIL from my friends list on FB.  She made a snarky comment on one of my posts saying that I was complaining and ungrateful.  Needless to say, the post was for me to vent.  I do not vent on FB very often but when I do, she always comments on those particular posts. 

My current situation:  I am pregnant and on bedrest.  I am unable to work due to the bedrest.  The doctor told me that I have too much amniotic fluid and my son has a left ventricle in his brain that is larger than it needs to be. I also have a 2 year old.  Very frustrating time in my life right now.  Here is what my post said:

Grrrrr.....I can't fall asleep. Husband is snoring his face off and he has most of the covers. I have insane heartburn, both of my hips hurt, and my stomach feels like it's going to explode. Not to mention all of the anxiety I have in thinking about everything and worrying about my appointment with the specialist on Tuesday.

This was my MIL reply to my post:

"Be glad you have a husband who takes care of you. Be proud of your heartburn and stomach for the wonderous thing God is letting you go through and is going to give you and have faith that God is in control. It's all on how you look at things. And yes, it does sound like complaining not gratefulness"

So what do you all think about this?  My MIL and I get along pretty well most of the time.  I am pretty sensitive to things right now.  Just didn't think she needed to refer to me as being ungrateful....it hurt my feelings.  Just because I vent about something does NOT make me ungrateful.  Life is a very precious thing and I am very grateful for everything I have in life.

by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:26 PM
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diaperstodating
by Angel on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:29 PM
No. My MIL doesn't have a Facebook, if she did I would not friend her.
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OliviaW.
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:31 PM

My MIL & I aren't friends on facebook. I actually have very few friends on there. 

kitty8199
by Bronze Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:31 PM
Not sure she meant it negative. I can see this either way, but you know your relationship with her.

I have my bf mom on mine.
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GraceStrickland
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:32 PM
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I am not friends with ANY in laws on facebook and they have gradually made peace with it.  We get a long better for it now.  Helped that my husband is supportive.  At the end of my pregnancies I need to kick him out of bed, and he's sweet about it.

Her comment was innapropriate but the sort of think people of that age seem to think is okay to post on there...

You're an adult.  You owe her respect as the woman who birthed your husband, and he grandmother to your children, but absolutely don't keep someone around in your condition who makes you feel bad about yourself.  It is okay to be bummed your car got stolen rather than cheerful that you have legs. Yes, you're grateful, it's healthy to vent.

SwtSnowflake2
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:33 PM
No she doesn't have Facebook. My FIL does and he is my friend on there. He is rarely on though.
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TTC2Long
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:34 PM
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We cut my mil out of our family completely, so I'm definitely not fb friends with her, but if we got along, I would be. I think rather than defriend her I'd have a talk or reply back that you KNOW it's all going to be worth it in the end and you are grateful, but that doesn't mean it's sunshine and roses all the time. You have every right to vent if you want! What pregnant lady doesn't?? Make sure she knows that you already have a mother, thankyouverymuch, and you don't need lectures from her, especially in a public place, like fb.
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offrdngal
by Gold Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:35 PM

 My mil is dead and I never met her.  I have none of my in-laws on my fb friends list.

I think her comment was uncalled for and she should have kept her trap shut.  I'd delete so you don't have to deal with this kind of stupid shit anymore.

zoo003
by Member on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:35 PM

I am friends with my mil, but then again, my mil and I get along really well.  However, if you feel that being friends with your mil on facebook would lead to problems in your relationship, then I wouldn't do it.   

Kara242
by on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:39 PM

I deleted mine awhile back cause all she ever did was share pics of my sils kids and brag about the things she did with them. But she cant be bothered to see mine but every 6 to 8 weeks.

lalasmama2007
by Ticia on Feb. 3, 2013 at 5:41 PM

I'm friends with my MIL on FB, but she would never comment on anything I posted in that manner.  If she did, I'd delete her ass!

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