Does your parenting style challenge your parents views?
My mother babysits for us on Fridays. It really helps us out ($), but my girls kinda hate it. My oldest whispers to me that she doesn't like it and the toddler cries most of the day. (This is not a new situation, its been going on for a year and a half now.)
My mom hates that I exclusively bf (15 mos old). She always has a rude comment about it. And we co-sleep, except naps which are usually in the crib. But I don't really care where she sleeps, sometimes its on the couch. She constantly asks about the crib and tells us we are spoiling her.
She does 'cry it out' for naps, and has left them taking naps while she sits outside (out of hearing range) or leaves them asleep in the car while she is inside. Our neighborhood is safe, but I can't imagine not being able to hear them if they needed me. Worse still, is when she gave the baby a children's strength medicine/dose because she didn't think it was much different.
We've tried suggesting other things, telling her what works for us, but she won't take a hint. I've been easy going about it. But now I need to have a real talk. I worry that it will ruin our relationship and hers with the kids.