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New Mom & New to CafeMom hoping that someone can provide advice on returning to work

Posted by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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Hello!   I am thrilled to finally be a new mommy and am head over heals in love with our little girl. I'm seeking advice from other moms that may have been faced with the difficult decision of returning (or not)  to work after maternity leave.

I've known for a long time  now that I'm not happy in my job.  I've known this wouldn't be the place I retired from.  With the birth of our daughter, it's now crystal clear to me that I'm not where I belong.  Having her changed everything.  I'm sure many mothers feel this way, but I know that I can't bear the thought of someone else caring for her from day to day.  They are only this little for a short amount of time and I don't want to hand that experience over to someone else to have for me.  I want to be with her.


At the same time, I can't just stop working.  My income is crucial to our household.  While I want to devote myself to being her mom, it's not realistic for me to just not work at all.  I've begun looking in to work from home opportunities/telecommuting.  I know they are out there.  I've heard plenty of people talk about their own, but you can't find anything that seems legitimate when I do these searches.


I have had the blessings of being able to work from home before and have never abused it.  In fact, it's always been a reward given to me for hard work since they know I'm the type of employee who is basically "married" to her job.  I want to pursue this as my next career venture so I can both work to provide for my family and be there to see my little girl grow. 


Does anyone out there know of such opportunities/companies that seek telecommuter employees?  Did anyone out there stop working with the birth of their child, but still find ways to make an income?  I'm looking for any info you can share.  I'm due to return to work in a few short weeks and am hoping to find something in that time.


Please & thank you!!

Retrogirl10

by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 9:29 PM
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lisahappymom
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 9:41 PM
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I did return to work, but I still feel torn about it.  I think that working and feeling guilty is just part of being a loving mom.

TableforSeven
by Judy on Feb. 17, 2013 at 10:13 PM
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I'm sorry, but I don't have any advice about work. We always planned for me to be a SAHM, so I only worked part-time before our first child was born.  

But I wanted to say Congratulations and Welcome to the group!!!

Bellmomof3
by on Feb. 17, 2013 at 11:54 PM
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I totally know how you feel, as I have 3 young children of my own, and will be returning to work from my 3rd maternity leave in 2 weeks.  I don't dislike my job, but it is certainly difficult to leave the little ones.  I can tell you that it is a bit invigorating to go to work and have adult conversations, put on clothes other than a track suit, and do my makeup and hair :-).  Don't feel badly about working, you are doing what is neccessary to take care of your family, and your daughter will directly benefit from you doing so.  Honestly I worry about working from home, as I feel like all I would do is play with my kids!!

retrogirl10
by on Feb. 18, 2013 at 1:44 PM


Thank you very much!  I wish we had planned for the same.  I just didn't realize how MUCH I'd want to be with her while she is this little.

Quoting TableforSeven:

I'm sorry, but I don't have any advice about work. We always planned for me to be a SAHM, so I only worked part-time before our first child was born.  

But I wanted to say Congratulations and Welcome to the group!!!



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