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News from my doc...hysterectomy at 36.

Posted by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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Seems like I've exhausted my options, and my doctor is recommending a hysterectomy.  I'm having a terrible time understanding my sudden feelings on this because it's what I've been expecting to hear for a while now.....and I haven't been terribly distraught over it.  I'm done having babies (my youngest is 10 1/2 and I'm almost 37), they aren't taking my ovaries because they say I'm too young, and it's the option that will solve my medical issues.  So, I'm trying to figure out why I'm so freaked out all the sudden.  All I can think about is the permanence, and what if something goes wrong?

Have any of you ladies had a hysterectomy?  Any advice on the subject?  Anything that can talk me down a bit?! surprise mini

by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 1:46 PM
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skippito
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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I have not had one myself but my younger sis has. She felt the same way. Although she was done having children the thought that now she couldn't really upset her. She went ahead with the surgery which solved her medical issues also and found once it was done she felt better than she thought. It's normal to be scared, it's a major surgery!!!!! Think of the benefit it will bring, and end to your medical issue. My sister is REALLY happy she did and she doesn't have a period anymore which she couldn't be happier about!
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MJP76
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 4:13 PM

Yeah I had one in April of 2010. I was 34. Don't expect it to fix your problems (depending on what your issues are). Be hopeful, but don't expect it, that way if it does fix your problems you will be pleasantly surprised. They took my uterus and my cervix, but left my ovaries.

the only problem it fixed for me is I no longer have heavy painful periods. Sex is still painful, and I still have to take birth control pills to control my PMDD, also I still get ovarian cysts, on a regular basis. I begged them to remove my ovaries and they also refused because of my age.. If they would have removed my ovaries, two more of those issues would have disappeared. 

He told me "if the problems just don't go away with the hysterectomy, we can always go back in and take the ovaries, but that surgery and recovery from is no cup of tea. So, no.. I don't want to go through it again.. *sigh*

also, my sex drive has been pretty close to zero since my hysterectomy...which is so strange to me, I've always been a very sexual person.. It kills me that I mostly want nothing to do with sex.


im sorry... My testimonial probably sucks, and isn't helping you at all.

ScrChk23
by Amanda on Feb. 19, 2013 at 5:31 PM
I have not, but my mom did.
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ScrChk23
by Amanda on Feb. 19, 2013 at 5:32 PM
I think you are feeling that because it is now a reality that the surgery will happen. It is a major surgery. Routine for doctors, but still major. Were any of your kids delivered via c section?
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countrymomma81
by Platinum Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 5:37 PM
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Yep, at 29. I had no uneasy feelings and was ready and willing to go from the moment the doctor said "you need a complete hysterectomy". 

I was ecstatic. I was done having kids and my periods were heavy and miserable. 

grneyedormom
by Kendra on Feb. 19, 2013 at 6:36 PM
I had one at 35 and felt nothing but relief over not having to worry about developing uterine cancer or dealing with insanely long, heavy periods anymore. I had my uterus and cervix removed and my ovaries are still intact. I've had no issues with my sex drive, in fact it's finally what I consider to be normal for me at 36. (For the other poster who said its not, you said you were still on birth control? That could be why your libido is low, are you on a low estrogen dose birth control pill?) I'm so much happier now.
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KRIZZ25
by Bronze Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 6:37 PM
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i ha done at 33 ..best thing i ever did ..and my sex drive went up..
mumsy2three
by Shauna on Feb. 19, 2013 at 7:14 PM

I haven't had one but I would suspect much of what you are feeling is pretty normal. I think just the fear of the unknown would make me apprehensive. I had many of the same feelings as far as what if something happens during surgery when I had my gall bladder removed last year.

Hugs and I hope all goes well.

lisahappymom
by on Feb. 19, 2013 at 10:44 PM

I am so sorry that you got such shocking news.  I would be stunned too.  (((hugs)))

Are you able to get a second opinion for piece of mind? 

Red_Kitten
by Member on Feb. 19, 2013 at 11:57 PM

I do appreciate this suggestion, and this actually IS the second opinion.  The first doc jumped straight to a hysterectomy, while this one worked with me to try a few less invasive things first.  I'm at least feeling comforted with knowing that the doctor I have now made quite and effort (as did I) to make something else work.

Quoting lisahappymom:

I am so sorry that you got such shocking news.  I would be stunned too.  (((hugs)))

Are you able to get a second opinion for piece of mind? 


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