an 11 year old preteen with a bad attitude and how to correct it
my daughter is 11 and we are having issues gettng along. she has an attitude that is intolerable. any time she decides she doesnt like something she throws a fit and when she is confronted about it, she completely 100% shuts down and will not listen to a word that is said. she doesnt care about much as far as getting punished with taking things away or grounding her. she is the same way in school but always complains about not having any friends. when i explain to her that the attitude she has will make her come across as a bully and mean so the other kids might not want to be around that, she gets even more angry. i have her in counseling as well but doesnt really speak to the counselor. my daughter's father is not a positive role model in her life, as we just got out of a custody battle, which i am sure that has a role in her attitude. but her father and i have been seperated since she was 5 months old so she doesnt remember us being together. i am at a loss, as she is very rude, disrespectful and at times too hard to handle. i am a detention officer and i am going to sit down with the juvenile probation officer to ask for ideas, but i am asking any one for advice as i am at my wits end with the attitude. i would like to hear any suggestions or ideas another mom may have in how to correct, handle and be patient with my daughter. i am also sure the puberty thing is coming into play but i just need some help. i am in a relaionship with a great man who my daughter looks up to, he has 2 kids of his own a boy 12 and a daughter 14 which my daughter gets along with perfectly. i just dont understand why she behaves like this. Help Please!! it is hard to admit that being a detention officer, inmates are easier to handle than my child...how does that work?