I'm posting today because I am very confused and concerned about the attitudes towards marriage held by many young women today. I see it on this site all the time, women having babies with men and not even remotely interested in marriage. What is up with that? I'm not bashing, I'm just trying to understand. I believe marriage is very important to a stable family structure. Am I totally old-fashioned to believe in marriage? I am not religious at all, but I firmly believe that marriage represents a lot of things these women are missing out on. To begin with, I think marriage represents a whole level of commitment that these relationships are going without. I'm not saying there aren't committed unmarried relationships. I'm sure there are, as well as bad marriages, of course. However, marriage means you meet struggles together and one of the parties doesn't flake out at the first sign of trouble. If you're together during the bad times it makes the good times that much more enjoyable. I can't even count the times I have been so grateful to have my husband by my side during challenges I've faced. Also, what's to keep these men from acting like they're single, they are! I know there are good men out there who treat their girlfriends like wives. But there are a lot more who stay with girls while they keep their eyes open for something "better." I'd like to hear (respectfully) why you agree or disagree with me. Again, I'm not bashing, I'm just trying to start a discussion and understand views different from my own.