Since my son was born SIL comes over about 2-3 times a month. She drops her bf off at work in the morning (around 7:00 AM!!!) and stays at our house until it's time to pick him up - 4:30-5:30 PM!!! Usually on the days she comes ds does not get a nap. I have to finagle some kind of breakfast and lunch for all of us. She always says she'll bring the food and she never does. Sometimes - SOMETIMES - she brings leftovers from something she has made at home or something she got from a restaurant. (DH is working, btw, so I'm at home with her all day.) He sees nothing wrong with this. I am floored!! Today I'm so tired I'm practically in tears - after her bf got off work he came over, too!! They just left a little bit ago. I just finished making ds's dinner and now I'm going to try to get him to bed. I'm seriously so tired I could just drop.
BIL and HIS family love to drop in around dinner time. They see the food on the table, and they tell us to go ahead and eat, but I was always taught it was rude to eat in front of people without offering. (Then again I was also told it was rude to drop in around someone's meal time.) Usually dinner means ds will be getting ready for bed soon, but they just hang out while ds starts slowly melting down. Last week I just picked him up, got him ready, and took him to bed. They finally got the hint and left.
Am I wrong?? Isn't this rude?? I'm having a hard time believing I'm the only person in this whole bunch who sees all this as a problem.