My MIL passed away in '08 (I'd never met her)
my sisters can take care their mother, if she gets sick...don't bother calling me.
I would be the one to step up in both situations.
I think my brother would be involved somewhat if our mom got sick, but the bulk of it would be placed on me. If my MIL got sick, again I would be the one to take it on. My husband would do what he could but I think I would be much more involved. I think my SIL would be around as much as she could but she lives in another state.
Both. I mean for my mil my sil lives closer, but I would still whatever I could to help and care for her even if I don't care for the woman that much. I've done this before and would do it again, because she had my dh. For my mom I am the primary child for her and my stepdad. My brother is primary for my dad and step mom. We decided this years ago prior to there being any health concerns so that there would never be any fighting or hurt feelings. I would still expect them to help (he and my sil) just as I would help with my dad and stepmom if needed. That's my family period. There's room for everyone to help.
For my Mom or Dad it would be me. My FIL is in deceased.
Everyone. The only questions asked would be working around schedules.
Well, my MIL is sick. She doesn't have cancer but she does have a brain aneurysm in the base of her brain that is inoperable. And she has high blood pressure so she's high risk. She's not bed ridden or anything so she's low maintenance but SIL and I take care of her. My husband and his brother both work and SIL is the only daughter.
My mom has two daughters, myself and my sister. Although my sister lives with her she doesn't have the common sense of a gnat so if something happened the caretaking would be all mine and my husband's.
And that's just a wierd debate. Wouldn't everyone in both situations do as much as possible for the sick person? I could see my husband helping me take care of my mom just as much as I help him and his sister take care of his mom.
Quoting MamaBear1978:Everyone. The only questions asked would be working around schedules.
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