HI - new to group and experiencing overwhelming problems....
Hi, My name is Jen and I am experiencing problems that are overwhelming me.
6 months ago I re-married a wonderful man. He is different than any man I have dated before and far different than my first husband.
He is native american and was born/raised on his reservation - he is very much connected with the culture of his tribe. I had been in an abusive relationship and this native man treats me very well. After dating for 6 months we married on valentimes day. We both teach in the public school system.
We have arrived at his reservation where we will be for a month with his family. I like his family. I have never been on an indian reservation before and honestly I have never been a minority before - which I certainly am with white skin and blond hair. My husband very much looks indian. He has 2 sons age 12 & 8, I have 3 sons age 11, 9, & 7.
There are pow-wows and "sweat-lodge" ceremonies going on along with "sundance" - that is all what my husband came for and is a years tradition. His family has taken us into their family home - a HUGE 2 story 6 bedroom house with satellite TV and internet - far from the meager lifestyle I expected on a reservation. They are including my sons in all their activities and his family is calling me "sister" along with giving my boys "indian" nicknames to call them by.
We have been here on the reservation now for 4 days. What has caught me so much off guard is the nudity. His 2 boys were naked from the moment we arrived - along with their cousins. Now my sons are starting to go "native" (naked) for some of the activities - 2 of my sons arrived home last night naked with a bunch of body paint and didn't see any reason to put on clothes. Yes, his kids are naked but they are indians on their reservation - my kids are white with blond hair.
In talking with them about it today my boys saw no reason to put on clothes for the activity today - and of course his 2 kids were naked but again they are indians on their reservation.
I am almost thinking of leaving with my sons. I feel like I am losing control just because of the different culture here. Plus there is no respect for race or background for my sons.
honestly, I don't know what I should do but feel as a responsible parent I need to do something.