Don't want to be long but wanted to see what others would say and if I have a right to very mad at my husband (and I am the calm type). Just a little background my husband does not work I work full time we now have full time childcare because he was not really watching the kids or keeping them safe. Was bed or watching movies etc. and this went on for quite awhile and we have had part-time help and 1 in preschool and now have full time help and he never watches them when I work and really does not spend any time with them even when I am home. never does anything with the family I take them everywhere and do all the fun things with them along. Anyway cargiver said she had a emergency last night and could not watch them so I was put in a hard place and told my husband he would have to watch them. He wined and complained and said the caregiver was lying and did not want to watch them and I have no reason to know that she laying. anyway this is my 4 hour day so it's a short day and he said well I will "watch" them but just stay in bed and listen if they are ok and our older one can make breakfast etc. My kids are 3 and almost 5 by the way. I told him this was not acceptable but he was saying that it was to much then he thought about the money I was paying cargiver and said were not going to pay them right if they don't work and I said yes we will decrease pay by 1 day. Anyway long story short he said if I gave him the money he would get out of bed and watch them this made me angry and I told him that I should not have to pay him to watch his own kids and extra money should go for bills or the family but he stuck fast so said I would give him the money but felt this was very wrong he was going this.