Good morning, ladies. I need some input....
DS is 9 yrs old. He will be 10 yrs old in November. He has always had a wild imagintion. However, for the past couple of years, he has gotten into the habit of flat out lying. Here are 2 recent situations:
Before school let out, his school was holding a fundraiser event for the Relay for Life. A flyer was sent home, and each student who raised $60 or more for the event, would receive a water bottle with the school's logo on it, and a basketball with the school's logo on it. I took him around the neighborhood to let him knock on doors and ask for donations, so that he could raise as much money as he could. Well, he ended up raising $18. As far as I knew, he turned in the $18. He didn't get the prizes of course, but a good deed was done, and I made sure that he knew he had helped out in a major way, even though he didn't meet his goal of $60. Well, a couple of weeks go by, and the PE teacher calls me (they turned the money in during PE). She said that she wanted to make sure that we knew that he turned in 3 $20 bills, which she found a bit odd because most of the kids turned in $1 bills, $5 bills, etc. because that is what people were willing to donate. I told her that as far as I knew, all he raised was $18, but that there was a possibility that he raised more money while he was at his dad's house, and that his dad could have possibly gave him the $20's in exchange for carrying multiple bills. I told her that I would call his dad and find out. Well, I called his dad, and he said no, he didn't know anything about the fundraiser, but that he would talk to DS and see what information he could get out of him. Well, DS had a very "likely" story about how he had raised a lot of money while going door to door on his dad's side of the neighborhood (we live on opposite sides of a big neighborhood) and that people eventually started asking him if he had change for a $20 and that is how he ended up with $20's. His dad and I both knew this wasn't the truth, but the downfall was that we had checked with everybody that we could, and nobody seemed to be missing any money. About a week later, I finally sat him down and explained to him that I'm a very smart woman, and I knew he wasn't telling the truth about where he got the money from. We went back & forth for about 15 minutes when he finally told me that he stole it from his step mom. He said that it "fell out of her purse", which was another lie because once confronted a few more times, he admitted to getting it out of her wallet. So, I told his dad and step mom what had happened, he got grounded for the rest of the school year (which was 6 weeks) and he had all of his outside privileges and video games taken away as well.
Fast forward to this weekend. This past week, he went to Florida with his dad and his family. His favorite show is Duck Dynasty. He told me that his dad took him to Bass Pro Shop, bought him a Duck Commander duck call that was green with flames on it, and that he got to meet Si (one of the people on the show) and take his picture with him. So, I emailed his dad this morning to see if I could get a copy of the picture to add to his photos at our house. He said that none of it was true. He said that he bought him a disposable camera, and that they did go to Bass Pro Shop and that they saw posters of all of the people on Duck Dynasty, but that was it.
So - my advice from you ladies is what on Earth do you do with a child who constantly lies about stuff. Just makes up complete flat out stories, that they know isn't true, at all? It's really starting to concern me because I thought that by this age, he should have grown out of this? Maybe not? But even so, I absolutely can not believe a word the child ever says. These are just 2 bigger situations. He is constantly lying about stuff. I'm at a loss with discipline.