My husband and I have just had a baby three months ago and also have 3 more children from different marriages. I work and go to school, so when we have company, I like to have an idea of when we will be graced with visitors. I also like to know what to expect in order to prepare to work around baby's schedule too. Today, we were expecting my in laws in the morning. We waited and waited for them, but they never showed up and that's fine. They sometimes do this thing where they don't show up because there are so many places they like to visit when in town. I decided that I would take a nap with the baby then get up and resume cleaning the house since we wouldn't have company anyways. My husband decided to take the three older kids with him to go ahead and visit his brother. The baby had already woken up, ate, played a little, then she got grumpy and took another nap. I took this opportunity to finish the floors. While I was on the patio enjoying the peace and quiet while the floors dried, I heard thunder coming from in my house. I went inside to see my floors muddied up by the feet of 7 children (mine included). The baby decided that she didn't like the chaos and woke up screaming. My kids know that they are to be quiet and always enter the house as if there is a baby taking a nap. The in law's 3 kids were very loud and would not calm down when I asked them to. The parents do nothing to calm their kids. I calmed the baby back down after I told the kids to go be loud outside, and cleaned up the floors again so that I could sit and chat with SIL. I sat down with her and started chatting then all of a sudden they had to go. They were accompanied by two other brother in law's, and one of them is a bit of a drunk who happened to come over to kiss the baby and smelled of liquor so of course he got "the look" from me. Now I see all night the drunken BIL keeps posting Facebook statuses that say " I would never make my family feel unappreciated, I love them all. They are always welcome in my house , mess or not!"
The way I see it is that I am behind exhausted and live to have family over, but the family also needs to respect my house. I am burned out, in the middle if a much needed cleaning and everyone just let's their kids run wild, while screaming and hollering in someone else's home. Maybe its just the difference that everyone is raised. I know that I was always expected to respect other peoples homes and it wasn't against the rules to rough house or be loud. The proper place for that was outside, especially when its more than just a couple of kids.
on Jul. 15, 2013 at 2:32 AM