I will say in advance, I may sound judgemental but I am trying not to be that way. I just don't understand how this all works.....
My sister in law is 46, married to my brother for 16 yrs. has two kids 9 & 13. I don't know if its b/c her kids are older (mine are 6 & 9) but the other day she told me that she was bored and called a friend of hers, picked her up, drove downtown and walked around the city, got some drinks and came home. No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. I just can't imagine sitting here on a Friday night and being like, "Ok, I'm bored, I'll be back later. See ya"
She is not shy about her time she spends away from her family. She has been going to Kentucky for the past 10 years about 8 hrs. away to visit her friend once or twice a year.
They are building an addition onto their home specifically for her. She says it's "my room where I can shut the door, be left alone and noone is allowed to go in there.." She is on the selfish side at times.
Yes, I know.. It doesn't concern me, why do I care?? If my brother doesn't care, the kids are taken care of what's the harm?? No I am not jealous of any of this. Blah blah blah..
She is just the other end of the specturm than I am. As much as my kids drive me up a wall daily.. I enjoy our family time together, doing fun things with them (that's not to say she doesn't do that either. Shes a good mom). I rarely go out and she is constantly telling me that I wasting my days away but not experiencing life.. going to concerts, going here or there.."your allowed to be your own person instead of mom and wife all the time" she always says .....?????? I feel like I did all that stuff before/during our marriage. i wanted to get that all in before kids so I can enjoy the chapter of being a mom. (does that make sense) Yeah dh and I go out here and there but most of the time I just enjoy being at home. I;m secure as a wife, mom, woman.. I'm good!
So is there something to be said about how your life changes as a mom once your kids are older or what??
I am ready to be bashed :)