I am engaged to a wonderful man who works his butt off to provide for me and my children (who are not his). I couldn't love anyone more than I love him, but I feel like I have a choice to make that I can no longer avoid. My fiance is an alcoholic. He has admitted it to himself and his family, but he refuses to get help or stop. Any time I bring it up he accuses me of trying to change him. It got to the point once where we split up because I made him chides between the boys and the alcohol. He sobered up for a bit and we were OK, but now he's back to his old ways. The kids see him drunk, but he's a fun drunk so they aren't understanding my point. I have never lied to my kids and they have heard my side of the issue when he wasn't around when we broke up. It isn't the money he's wasting that is hurting me. Its more how he treats the problem he obviously has. Also, I watched my mother drink herself to death (ethanol induced heart attack) a few years ago and he doesn't understand that every time I see him drunk (every night) I am reliving the day I found my mother dead from the same problem. I can't watch him kill himself (and he wont admit that it is happening) but it hurts just as bad to think of leaving the man I love with my heart and soul just because he has a problem. I need advice, not criticism. Please help me, I'm so lost and desperate.
on Sep. 9, 2013 at 2:53 AM