For example, I am seeing a woman who is very permissive with her kids, to a point where they run the house and are absolute terrors (her first trader just got expelled yesterday, to give you a sense). I am more firm with my son. He has set boundaries. He's well-adjusted. He's not perfect, and I'm not a perfect mom, but he's safer than her kids. She tends to do what's easy over what's safe/healthy/necessary.
Now, I did bring it up to her last night, and she says that what she's doing isn't working. She says she's open to suggestions. Of course she has no intention of parenting exactly like I do, and I'd be an idiot to ever expect that. But is it possible to make this work? How can you merge families in situations like this?