I am at the end of my rope with my 6 yr old son. He is very passive aggressive and difficult to handle. For example: if he finds himself in time out he will say "that's fine...I wanted to sit here. Or I can sit here all day!" If we remove privileges then he will say "thats okay I didn't want to do play with that or do that anyway." When asked to do something he will routinely say No...and then proceed to do it was slowly as possible. Or he will flat out ignore us! These behaviors are occurring in school as well.
Just to rule out any potential opinions that this behavior is media/enviroment driven: We do not allow him to watch extended amounts of television or to engage in violent video games. He is active in art, and swimming, has no medical problems, eats organic foods only, he is above average in his school work, and goes to bed by 8pm nightly.
Our home is a two parent household. I work PRN as a Social Worker but for the most part am a SAHM. This child does not come from a violent background or live in poverty. He is not overly indulged, ignored, or coddled. His misbehavior is addressed 90-95% of the time. I simply do not have the luxury of devoting every waking hour to him...we do have 3 other children.
This reason I am posting all the details is that I am completely at a loss. We do not use corporal punishment (don't care to debate it either) and focus instead on time outs and loss of privileges. We use a reward chart to track his good behavior with hopes of encouraging him to choose wisely. However, it has been useless to a degree as he does just the bare minimum to avoid removal of all privileges (Privileges meaning: 30 mins on the computer, play dates, games with mom, dad or sibling, etc).
So please mom's advise what to do with this child???