Last night my oldest asked to have a friend spend the night. His friend who I will just call HL has come over many times in the past. Never have we had any type of issue with him. He is a little on hyper side but he is very respectful.
Well everything was fine when dh and I decided to head to bed last night. We told the boys that they could finish watching their movie on Netflix and then head to bed. I was exhaust and fell right to sleep. Our door was open so dh could keep an eye on them. Well this morning they went with my mom for a bit. My mother over hears them talking about sex and the movies they watched. Now let me stop and tell you my boys have kid profiles on Netflix so nothing above pg could be watched. However my mother was concerned and called me to let me know. Dh and i then went on our netflix and realized that they logged into my account and watched some very very explict homosexual movies on there. I was livid. We have had netflix for 5years and never have my boys ever did such a thing. We then picked up HL and took him home. We told his parents with out pointing any fingers what had happened. They proceeded to tell us that HL wouldn't even know the word sex. Well I being very calm said that is fine we will be punishing our boys and you can handle it on your end however you would like.
We have since sat done with both our boys who are 9 and 7. According to them HL typed in boy sex and picked the movies. They never watched more then 5mins of any of them. He told them that him and another boy like to have boy on boy sex and touch each other in private places. He also said he had the other boy's sister kiss him on his penis and play with his penis. My ds said that HL and another boy talk about having, in their words "boy on boy" sex all the time at school.
Both of my boys have been punished and lost all access to anything electronic. They also are not allowed to have company over for a while. I truly believe that they didn't do the searching but they also didn't tell the other boy no. They didn't come to us or let us know. When asked they both said they knew what HL was doing was wrong. However he told them he wouldn't be friends with them if they told on him.
Now here is what I am not sure about. Do I go to the other parents of all the boys involved and tell them what the boys are doing? Honestly I know all the parents pretty well and i doubt they will believe me if I did. HL's parents are the most responsible but they have no idea what their son is doing. They are both in their late 50s and not really raising him. The other two kids parents are both in the middle of seperations or divorces and could care less what the boys are doing as long as they are not under foot. I am angry, frustrated and just upset about the whole sitution. What can I or what should I do?