At what age do you stop making your children attend family events such as weddings, cookouts, non major holidays (Memorial Day BBQ, Good Friday crawfish boil, etc.)? My children are 6 and 11. They are fine going to my mom's house for holidays and stuff but when it comes to MIL's neither of them like going over there. She smokes in her house, it's always hot and she's not that nice. Usually my kids prefer to stay at my grandma's or my moms house when we go and I've never had a problem with this. Recently my MIL mentioned being upset that I never make the kids go to her house.
Now, MIL lives about 10 minutes away, has a car and can come here any time she wants. She usually prefers to spend her time in a bar (it's her friends bar and although she does drink occasionally, it's not like she's rip roaring drunk 24/7). My point is that if she misses the kids enough, she knows where we live. Am I wrong for not making them come? We do make them come for holidays such as Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's Day, Easter and for any birthday celebrations.