Are any moms on here have shared custody of their kids ?
I have full custody of my daughter. Even pre-divorce, I was pretty much raising my daughter on my own since she was 4. (My ex-husband worked 12 hour shifts, alternating between day and night) My daughter is now 10 years old and my XH has now decided that he would like shared custody (he basically can't afford to pay the child support is what it is...) I offered that he take DD every Thursday, and Thursday to Sunday on the weeks that he's suppose to take her for the weekend. But he's not up for that. He brainwashes my DD when she goes there on the weekend and guilt trips her telling her that he misses her and wants more time with her.
All of a sudden DD is expressing wanting to go to her dad more. I HONESTLY, TRULY don't think it's the best thing for her, I think this will throw her out of wack and utimately she will not be happy there. Once custody is changed, there is no going back. Should I let her decide? I'm torn at this point. When I first got the papers, I was crying, I called a lawyer etc but I don't want DD to resent me later and say that I kept her away from her father ...