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Not sure if I want another baby..I don't think he wants another one

Posted by on Aug. 5, 2014 at 4:27 AM
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So I have a 3 year old son.  Like most toddlers he has his moments and stages. My hubby is a year older than I am.  I'm going to be 36 soon and had a miscarriage last year.  I felt I was the only person that was sad that the baby was gone.  I don't get help from family at all except with hubby's annoying comments.  We moved away from them but even when we were in the same city..they were useless.  

Hubby isn't helpful in doing housework nor can he stand our son for oh...30 minutes in a day.  He gets irritated and frustrated and will keep yelling.

I miss the baby stage but should I stop thinking of having baby#2? 

Does anyone feel like they shouldn't have had another baby especially if you don't have help at home whatsoever?  Has this affected your relationship having another one?

by on Aug. 5, 2014 at 4:27 AM
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SCADMom
by Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 6:45 AM
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My thoughts are if you can't even get help from your husband with y'all's child now having another kiddo isn't a wise idea at least for now. Being a parent isn't a 30min a day gig. Your husband and you need to sit down and discuss how to co-parent and work together also check into some parent/family therapy. Good luck!

Aslen
by Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 7:52 AM
What the PP said. Parenting is something that is done together. If your husband can't stand your son for more than half an hour, why on earth would you want to bring another child into the situation?
mumsy2three
by Shauna on Aug. 5, 2014 at 8:03 AM

I agree with the ladies above.

Kissybratzmom
by Bronze Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 9:52 AM
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I agree with the other ladies. With that being said, my significant other wants another child but it is absolutely not going to be happening. Besides the fact that I'm about to be 36 here in a couple of days, he doesn't help clean the house, he doesn't cook, he rarely changes diapers or gives baths, and he certainly doesn't get up with the children. Therefore, for those reasons there will be no more children.
Mari6443
by Gold Member on Aug. 5, 2014 at 11:53 AM
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I agree with the other ladies as well. I can relate to your situation. In the past I really wanted a third child. But DH does not want more than 2 kids. He says that's enough for him. Now I'm to the point where I'm content with my 2 children, but I would also be content if we are blessed with one more. So I know how you feel. It's definitely got to be a decision that you two as parents have to make together. Hope everything works out.:-)
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