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Posted by on Jan. 22, 2018 at 9:07 PM
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My daughter Morgan has been struggling in school since pre k, she is in kindergarten now and the teacher is threatening to hold her back because she's not learning her numbers and letters in a timely manner. My daughter is usually GREAT at remembering her dance routines and learning songs on the radio or reciting lines from her favorite t.v shows. I don't want to brush it off as if there's nothing wrong, but I also don't want to automatically diagnose her with a learning disability if she's just saying possum when it comes to her school work. HAS ANYONE ELSE HAD THIS PROBLEM WITH THEIR CHILDREN? If so, how did you deal with it? I'm open to any and all reasonable suggestions, tips and advice. PLEASE HELP!!!!
by on Jan. 22, 2018 at 9:07 PM
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by New Member on Jan. 22, 2018 at 9:12 PM
How old is she?

A lot of kids have problems remembering numbers, you could always make up a dance or song to help her out. Any behaviour problems? I do have kids with cognitive delays but letters and numbers were never an issue as in knowing them but mathematics and reading is their struggle and behaviour problems.
by New Member on Jan. 23, 2018 at 8:32 AM
She could learn a different way. She may be a more hands on type kid and the movement of dance and song really get to her. Try putting her numbers and letters to that. Ex: abc song, when doing it show her the letters , draw them out and have her make up a dance to go with it or like ymca she has to do the letter with her body.
Number she has to do the number with her finger. My son loves Disney and nick jr and their great at incorporating fun into learning these things. We buy bathtub paint and foam letters and do them in the bath, we do them out of order and when he picks a letter he has to tell me what it is. He writes his name in the paint then he can paint himself (its soap too so a win win). . He’ll be 4 next month and we’ve been doing this since 1. He’s also in preschool and he’s doing great at most of his skills. Keep at it at home and she’ll pick it up, especially if she’s motivated. It’s when their not motivated that you have to worry.
by Silver Member on Jan. 23, 2018 at 11:05 AM
Talk to her Dr and not strangers. Ask the teacher if he/she thinks your rd could have issues with learning.
by Platinum Member on Jan. 23, 2018 at 4:18 PM

I can help you ... first of all DO NOT agree to let the teacher hold her back ESPECIALLY in kindergarten, this is the stupidest thing I've ever heard !  Plus holding her back won't do anything for her if she does in fact have a learning dissability.

Let her go into grade 1.  Then you will be able to see if she is still struggling.  If she is I'm sure the school has some kind of service / remedial teaching.  Where I am at, they do not evaluate children until the age of 7.  If your child is struggling you have to insist that she be followed and evaluated by a specialist.  Unless you have a really good private insurance that will cover a private evaluation with a specialist.  Get her diagnosed and go from there. 

I had that problem with my DD - right off the bat in kindergarten the teacher pointed out to me that something was off.  my DD was not recognizing repetitive and basic words like the days of the week.  At the end of grade 1 when the trouble still persisted I took a tutor at home, once a week,  I also went to a private institute to have DD partially evaluated where it was determined that she was high IQ but there was something off as far as letters / reading / writting were concerned.  She also had a very disorganized way about her.  But she was only 6 at the time.  They held her back in grade 1 - the following year, I insisted for a full evaluation through the school board and only then, we were able to determine that she was badly dyslexic and also suffered from Dysorthographia.  (so holding her back made no difference anyways since you can't correct a learning dissability)  From there I took the necessary measures and sent her to a private school specialized for children with learning dissabilities.  She thrives there.  Always top of her class. She is now in grade 7  - it's a lot of work, for both of us but the important thing is - she is doing well.  She is reading and doing well in school.  But at 14 I still have to supervise homework and help her occasionally , she easily gets overwhelmed and disorganized that's all part of the quirks of having a kid with a learning dissability.

let me know if you have other questions, I'll try to help you the best I can

by Lisa on Jan. 23, 2018 at 4:20 PM
She may benefit more from a homeschool situation where you can teach her hands on. It doesn't sound like she learns the way they teach in public school.
by on Jan. 24, 2018 at 8:07 PM

Have you noticed the same thing when working with your daughter? Every child learns at a different pace and different ways. I would ask the teacher what type of strategies she has used to teach the numbers and see if she's willing to explore some other styles. I would also think that this could be something you could speak to your pediatrician about since they have a more complete understanding of your daughter. I don't think it's something to worry about, but definitely worth exploring second opinions and learning styles. Good luck!! 

by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2018 at 2:13 PM
If she's only in kindergarten, it's better to hold her back now. Especially if she is on the younger side. How old is she?

For instance. My friend has a son the same age as my daughter, they're both 10 (he was born in September, she was born November, same year!). My daughter is in 4th this year and her son is in 5th. He has struggled BIH time....he probably should have been held back. When they moved out of state, she tried to have him repeat the previous grade, and they wouldn't let him! So he struggles on.

I would keep working with her and take the teachers advice to hold her back. It is going to get harder and harder the next couple of years. So it is better to let her catch up if she needs to. You will never regret holding her back at this point.
by Member on Jan. 31, 2018 at 10:06 AM

I work in an elementary school and trust me, there are a lot of kindergartners who are struggling with their letters and numbers. Sometimes a child just isn't there yet and there's not much that anyone can really do. It's only Jan. Just keep working with her. 

by Member on Feb. 17, 2018 at 10:47 PM
My dd7 struggled last year all through Kindergarten with reading. Not once did her teacher suggest holding her back. She did however tell me I should request getting her tested for a disability through the school. I had to write a letter stating my concerns to the spec ed dept. They did test her at the beginning of this year. Turns out my dd7 is Dyslexic so I'm glad I did.
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