Tell us some of the challenges you have had to face being a single mom?

[owensmom34]

Tell us some of the challenges you have had to face being a single mom?

[NananRaysmom]

For me...just financial.  I get (some) child support...but, with the cost of daycare...it doesn't help too much.  I also get zero assistance...so everything we need...its my responsibility.  But...after 8 years with my ex...I decided I wanted to live alone.  So, this was my decision so I have to suck it up and make it work!  Everything else is great....I love being alone...and my ex and I have a great relationship...and we hang out as a family several times a week...so my kids aren't missing out there.

[needhope]

Well I am 40ish, but here goes anyway, I have a 5 yr old, the single thing really isn't for me. But being treated like 'the other woman" from wifes of married men is ssooooo old already. Yes the money issues too, I am doing better now though. I battle with loneliness a lot too. I don't have much of a support system, no family in the area, so I don't get out alot for social opportunties, its starts to get to you after a while. most men my age don't want to raise another kid, been there done that. thanks for letting me vent

[Brandi56]

Some of the challenges I face are mostly financial and not enough time with my daughters. That is why I recently started my home business to pay off debt and maybe be a stay at home mom. I get child support for only my oldest daughter and he never calls and only sees her about every six months or so. The father of my youngest daughter has denied her since he found out I was pregnant. We did a DNA test and it came back that he wasn't the father even though there was no one else. He has married someone else and they had an unplanned child in April. I know that everything happens for a reason. I'm just hoping that things start turning around for us shortly.

[Photo6555]

My only challenges are not enough time with my daughter and when she starts preschool, getting her back and fourth with my work schedule. 

 

[CurvieMomma]

I've been a single mom for almost 5 years. My kids are 4.5 and 6.5. I think the most difficult thing for me is that I'm always the bad guy. I'm the one that makes my kids do homework, I'm the one who punishes them when they misbehave, I'm the one who says no to the slumber parties when I don't know the parents, I'm the one who makes them go to bed on time, I'm the one who says no candy when I'm cooking dinner. It's always me me me who's the meany. It gets old sometimes. It would be nice to have someone to tag in and say, "Take a break and let me handle them for a while."

 

[michelle_04]

 i am married, but my husband is in jail....he has been in there since march of this year, he will be out in december of this year...in the meantime it is me and our two sons. so i am a temporary single mom, and i have got to tell all of you...that i don't know how you do it all year round. and that you women are the most amazing women to me. i agree the most challenging part is the money...i JUST got approved for welfare this past month, before that it was family, friends and food banks. i am trying to hang onto the house we just bought a year ago, and his truck (don't know why,lol).

you women are so amazing  

i hope no one minds that i posted this :)

[911lattedrinker]

I hear you!

I have found that I have huge issues with my friends who are all married who want to call me up and complain.  Their husbands all work, but they complain that they don't have any money??  I usually keep quiet about it but it sometimes frosts my butt.  They have help!  I have been divorced and doing the single mom thing for nine years.  I would rather do it that way then be miserable and with someone.  That doesn't mean that financially everthing is fabulous, cuz its not.  I would love to be able to be home more and do more stuff with my girls ( I can right now I'm unemployed) but that means that bills don't get paid. 

Karmic retribution does happen.  I am financially more stable then both of the ex's.  I have the house that I busted my hump for and both of them either rent, or flop with their women.

I wake up everyday and make a concious decision to make it happen for me and the girls.  Its a choice.  And I can say I'm proud of all the hard work I do.  I don't get kudos, because its my JOB as a parent to make sure the kids are taken care of!

[militarykat]

Oh, somewhere that I can vent and be understood.

It's just me and my son. No help, no relatives, no family members, nothing to fall onto if something goes wrong. I bought a house after getting back from deployment to Iraq, bought a new truck, fixed up nursery room for my son while pregnant, all by myself. Put the furniture together, painted the walls, you name it.

Then the unit wants to deploy again and I refuse, because I don't have anyone to leave my son with, and frankly I can't leave him for a year with a stranger and there is a chance that I may not come back alive or healthy. My boy is only 9 months old, I still breast-feed him, for crying out loud. So I tell them to transfer me to a non-deployable unit and instead they trying to kick me out. So I fight. And look for a job at the same time, and the money is tight as it is, and I'm losing my milk and my sleep and get half of the head with grey hair. But I win. They let me stay and transfer me to a different unit. IN THE DIFFERENT STATE! So, now I have to move, with the baby, put the house out for rent and hope that someone will move in quickly, because I can't pay for mortgage and rental apartment at the same time.

When my girlfriends call me to complain about their husbands I just hang up now, because, seriously, who has time to listen to that crap?

 

[Affirmation]

I've been separated from my ex-husband since March 2007, divorced Feb 2009. I get zero child support. My challenge is definitely financial. My daughter is 5 years old and I feel bad when the tv gets turned off because I'm late on a bill or I don't have the foods she prefers in the fridge or I can't even scrounge up change to go through a drive-thru. It's sad. Times like that make me feel so small I want to crawl under a rock. I do work but I live paycheck to paycheck.

Hugs to all you single mommies. Sometimes we need one.

[dannie0802]

financial trouble and being able to spread myself out everywhere my boys are in 2 different schools and have back to school night on the same night