Is 37 to old to have another kid?

[sneezy]

Hi ladies-

So DH realllly wants another child. We have 3.  He's not much help.  I finally have my youngest out of diapers and I have lost the weight.  I really am thinking I'm done.  I keep trying to tell DH that 37 is to old, but he's not in agreement.  

So what do you think?  Too old?

[DandEMom]

I think this is a total opinion/preference question.  My "too old" number is 40, so I have to say, no I don't think 37 is too old.  Maybe already having 3 kids and then deciding on another at 37 but be too much.  I have three of my own now, I will be 33 next month and would like on more when my youngest is 5, and that puts me at 37/38.  I am not there yet, and may change my mind.  But right now, that is my plan.

[shymom24]

Before I turned 30 my too old number was 30 (im pregnant), I still want at least one more so I moved that number to 35, but only because I would like to have anohter by then, if it doesnt happen I will probably move that to 40..LOL Its personal preferance. If you feel your done then dont tax yourself or your body. Lots of love.

[LauraKatherine]

i have  afriend that is 38 & prego. her other kids are 7 and 20. she is happy.

my husbands mom was 40 when she had his sis and 43 when she had him... she is still alive at 78 and for the most part they turned out ok...lol

i think its just up to mom & dad if it's ok or not to have a baby. there are different risk factors that you should ask your doc about but they are not risks "worse" then a young mom, just different risks.

but regardless of age, if you don't think you want another baby then maybe you should not have one.

if it is just the weight & actually being pregnant that is an issue you could always adopt.

 

 

[kmstockwell]

I just turned 30 and have two kids and my "too old" number is 35, but we are pretty sure we are done.  Basically 37 is not too old if you want another kid, but I am sure you can find some data out there to support your position.. like birth defects or low birth weight or preterm stuff.  There is always data to support a position :)   If it helps, once you reach a certain age (not sure what it is), the pregnancy is called "high risk"...

[MarigoldsMama]

I'm 36 and pregnant with #3. I obviously don't think it is "too old" for us! We started our family a little later... I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old.

I actually asked my OB/GYN about additional risks since I'm over 35... he said that the risks are negligible. He doesn't consider a pregnancy "advanced maternal age" until 40. That made ME feel better!

That being said, if I already had 3, my youngest was out of diapers and I'd already lost the weight... I think I'd be done too! lol

[ruby70]

its a personal choice regarding your age....  everyone is different

 

[whistlemom3]

Not too old.  But hubby should consider your feelings too. 

[Takiya]

I definately don't think 37 is to old to have a baby.my cousin has a friend whose 46 and she just had a baby not that long ago.it depends on the person.if that's what you want go for it. and if you don't then that's ok to..

[BelleBrinaMom]

In todays day and age...no its not to old.  Alot of women aren't even starting until 35.  However, that doesn't mean its any safer to mom or baby etc.  I personally do not want any more past the age of 35.   If you really don't want anymore, stand your ground.  I know that can be tough...and hopefully no strain on your relationship as a result.  Just stay open and honest with hubby about it and you'll figure it out. Good luck.

[Beautyful_Momma]

This is such a personal decision for YOU to make.  Technically you are considered high risk after 35.  It's not that you are PHYSICALLY too old for it...You can still have a baby...but it would be a rough decision for me to make especially if I have three already and the youngest is out of diapers.  30 was my cut off and I got pregnant at 29.  Then I got my tubes tied.  I made that decision because I didn't want to be an old mom.  I know that sounds selfish but I wanted to be able to have my kids out of the house by 45..well it will be 48 now but that is still pretty young.  LOL  I had three children too  before I got pregnant with my son at 29 and my husband had custody of his daughter so we had four kids in the house.  When I found out I was pregnant my youngest was 4!!  I was waiting on 30 to get my tubes tied an was on Depo til then and i go pregnant two months after turning 29.  LOL...so I did meet my deadline...just ended up with one more little one before the cut off date.  I RAN to get my tubes tied as soon as my son was born.  LOL  I wouldn't let my husband touch me!  LOL...

If you BOTH are not on board and YOU are the primary care taker I think that while 37 isn't too old, it sounds like you are done.  And in my eyes that is what matters in this dilemia.