My son is 11 and has severe ADHD since he was 3. We have been in therapy since he was 5 and it seems like we aren't getting anywhere. Now he has come a lonnngg way since we started therapy. The dr is great and I love his ideas and methods. Its just that NOTHING seems to sink in. I am at whitts END...completely. He constantly lies even over really dumb stuff that don't matter, he will lie about. He constantly takes things that aren't his....will take gum and lifesavers out of my purse and blame his younger sister. He has destroyed his room...walls, bedding and recently cut a hole in the screen in his room to throw some candy and cough drops he took from school so he wouldn't get caught...and then says,"what hole?!"..ughh really? He has carved things into the walls in his room,spit on the walls... He room is now just a bed,night stand and dresser. My hubby hates that his room looks like it does. But I think letting him contiue to destroy things isn't acceptable. We have to have a double stacked baby gate on his door at night when he goes to bed for fear of what he would do while we were sleeping. I don't know what he would get into. He will wander around the house and bother the rest of the kids in bed! And with all this going on, for some reason the anger outburst have gotten out of control. He will hit me and the other kids in the house. My younger daugher, 8, loves to smile. That makes him MAD...and will hit her or try to hurt her for smiling. When he is mad, it is never his fault. Always mine since I caught him doing something he shouldn't be...cause I caught him hurting someone...what ever it is..it is my fault. We constantly talk about ways for him to manage this anger. And when he isn't mad can talk calmly about it...but the SECOND something/anything doesn't go his way...BEWARE! Now my hubby is a police officer and works nights, so is gone 4 nights a week. He does't usually do this to dad. Some of the anger but not as bad as it is with me! The other night he SCREAMED for 2 hours...and the next day...SCREAMED for 3 hours cause he was getting grounded for poking a hole in the screen.
I love my son dearly,with all my heart. This has just be so difficult for me to handle and disrupts the activities of our whole family. I don't like to take him out to the store or to activities since 98% of the time we will have major issues.
Any advise for me ?? How do I cope with this and still keep my sanity? (cause I feel like I am losing it!!!) Any advise on how I can help my son manage this anger. We tell him it is ok to be angry ..but it is NOT ok to yell,scream and hit other people when we are angry! The dr gives him ideas and tips..but then he comes home and acts like we never even discussed this with the dr!!!!
TAKE YOUR CHILDREN OFF THE GARBAGE
- momtobjng
on Jun. 6, 2011 at 10:15 PM