Hello my name is heidi i have a son who was detected adhd just some weeks ago.. he started aderral..(i think thats how u spell it) well he is so aggressive lately he hurt his sister with a hanger so close to her eye.. it was horrible today i was called to pick him up early he hit a lil boy with a scoop were they catch balls... in his nose he just swung it to his face..and cut his nose!!
i am so overwellmed what is happening to my son.. he was not violent before..
is this due to adhd.. or what.. or am i just a bad mom??
dam..
plz help.
Heidi,
You are not a bad mom. It is not your fault that your child has ADHD, it is not something that you caused or gave to him. Perhaps it is the Aderol, there are side affects listed as causing extra aggression with some ADHD medications. I would ask your pediatrition, maybe she could put him on a different medication. When my son was three and four and not on medication he would sometime have these outbursts of aggression, whatever the reason some children who have ADHD don't know how the channel or control there emotions which sometimes results in aggressive behavior. My son is 8 now and is on 18mg of Concerta, he started it about two weeks ago, and his school behavior and concentration has improved greatly. Some medications work with some kids and some don't, if Aderol is causing aggression try something different, but talk to your pediatrition they will know where and what to try next. Good luck and remember sometimes and most of the time they can't help the way they act they just don't have that ability to think before the act. Take care and stay positive!
First and foremost you are not a bad mom. Next you need to call his dr and change medications it sounds like he is having a reaction to this med and should try a different type. My son is on vyvanse and is doing wonderful.
my son was on adderall and it made him aggressive too, we are still working with the doctor...to find something that will work for him....But deff sounds like he needs to try something else...
Believe me, you are not alone. When my youngest son was diagnosed with ADHD on Nov, I had the same feelings, as he isn't my only ADHD child. They started him on Adderall XR at first and after a week of hysterically crying, we stopped to try a different med. But our oldest son takes Adderall XR and does just fine. Our second was Focalin XR and after a little while he began to go into a zombie state during the lunch time hours. He wouldn't eat, play, talk or basically do anything at all. He would always cry that his legs hurt & he would have to be carried (he's 4.) But around 3 in the afternoon, he would be his normal self again. Si last week, we switched him to a different med. He seems to be doing ok with this one, but with the last med it did fine at first and then started having the weird reactions after a few months. It is a little strange to me because my oldest son scored with his first med, but it does take some time to figure out what medicine fits your son best. They all react a different way with his body chemistry. I agree with the other moms, call your doctor & let them know what's going on and that you want to try a different med. And most importantly, hang in there, you are not alone & you NOT a bad mom!
You are a good mom for wanting to help him.. i have a 5 year old son who has adhd and we started him on adderal and same things happend he was so angry hitting everyone, especially his little 2 year old sister.. and i had him on it for 3 days and i told the dr to change it, he went to concerta, then about 5 months after he started that we tried to combine intuniv with it, and it didnt work.. but he has been on concerta for about 10 months but it seemed to not work anymore, so now they changed him to focalin and that has been about 5 days now.. but it is hard to tell because he is sick with the flu and when he takes meds it counteracts the meds..
Your child just needs the right medication and the right dose. My son tried one medication and got terrible headaches. He's been on Adderall for several years, and it works well for him. Each child is different. Some kids respond well to natural remedies, dietary changes, and some need meds--you just have to find what works for YOUR child. You're not a bad mom---you're trying to get your child the help he needs!
1st things 1st - YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM!!!!!!!! You are concerned for your child and trying different avenues to help him. I (like most in this group) understand; we have all spent many nights wondering where we went wrong and what can we do more of; it took me a long time to accept and believe that sometime things just are - no explanation, not because, just this is who my child is - no more, no less.
Different medicationsaffect kids very differently; my 7 year old son is on Adderall XR (10mg) and has been for just over a year - this med has worked great for him. Ritalin, however, was a different story - it made him aggressive. Strattera worked great initially, however, the small dose was not enough and the next dose up turned him into a zombie.
A. has his moments as well. Unfortunately, his 5 y/o brother gets the brunt of it. A. is at times (luckily moments and not the majority) aggressive - both verbally and physically. In addition to the ADHD dx he also has a dx of anxiety and sensory processing issues. We work closely with a phychologist to help work through a variety of issues. We have accommodations at his school through a 504 Plan. We have done occupational therapy, food modifications, and environmental modifications as well. It is a work in progress.
Hang in there! I would definitely be in contact with your son's doctore or whoever prescribed the meds - let them know what you have observed. They decide that a different med or dosage is more appropriate for him.
TAKE YOUR CHILDREN OFF THE GARBAGE
- heidig_84
on Feb. 12, 2009 at 2:31 PM