So.. about 2 1/2 years ago my husband and I found out that he had a child who at the time was 13, she is now almost 16. I have always told him to do what he felt was right with her. I have tried to be a nuetrel as possible. FInally in the last couple of months he has decided that he wants to have a relationship wit her. He talks on the phone and they IM eachother, so they have a great line of communication going. He has decided that he wants her to start spending 2 weekends a month with us. Here the issue I have never really talked to her I've seen her a total of 5 times maybe but they were mostly at places were you didn't conversate alot. My husband says I'm rude to her because I don't talk to her. I have tried to explain to him that I just don't know what to say. I'm the type of person that likes to sit back and observe before I put myself into a situation. Thats probably why I don't have a lot of friends. Basically I'm shy until I get to know you, but I haven't had a chance to get to know her. He says I'm the adult and blah blah blah but I just don't know what to say. I need some advice about how to break the ice or if anyone has been in this situation how did you react and adapt?
on Dec. 28, 2007 at 1:19 PM